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21 " Ancestors are benevolent beings who love us. You are their legacy, and they want the best for their progeny. Their own evolution in the Otherworld depends upon the completion of unfinished business or making amends for unkind acts or deeds that they may have committed during their lifetime. "
― Steven D. Farmer , Healing Ancestral Karma: Free Yourself from Unhealthy Family Patterns
22 " Ceremony is the intentful construction of the bridge which spans the barriers that we’ve created between our soul and our mundane life. Through the creation of ceremony, we allow the free movement of our soul into the mundane and of our consciousness in the realm of soul. It’s a two-way bridge. "
― Steven D. Farmer , Sacred Ceremony: How to Create Ceremonies for Healing, Transitions and Celebrations
23 " Ceremony, whether or not it’s shamanic, is typically magical, creative, and healing, and provides a bridge between the material and spirit worlds. It’s a felt demonstration of how the power of the universe works, and it provides an excellent way to honor all those events in our lives that we want to sanctify. Participating in sacred ceremony helps us bring our being into alignment with the natural flow and rhythm of life. "
24 " By participating in ceremonies such as this one, people often find themselves in a rapturous state, experiencing a profound and ancient knowing at a soul level. Through the mythos always present in sacred ceremonies—that vast reservoir of species memory represented in symbols, songs, dances, and stories, all of which have common themes and mythologies cross-culturally—we find a common ground with all of humanity. "
25 " Gregg Braden, in his book The Divine Matrix, cites some fascinating research that supports the notion that DNA is what connects us all at a very fundamental level. Although the studies described were done with human DNA, it’s easy to extrapolate from them to assume that the DNA of all life—forms would behave similarly. The idea that we’re all connected in some intangible web of life is something we’ve heard over many, many centuries from mystics and indigenous peoples, and now the experiments that Braden cites give scientific credibility to what, up until this century, was a spiritual/metaphysical idea. "
― Steven D. Farmer , Earth Magic: Ancient Shamanic Wisdom for Healing Yourself, Others, and the Planet
26 " In your family, your parents did not empathize with you. They expected a great deal more from you than you were capable of giving. At age seven, for example, you may have looked and acted quite mature, yet you still had your moments of whining and crying, you still needed considerable comfort and guidance. Your parents, not taking into account that this was to be expected, struck out aggressively against you because you were not acting according to their expectations. "
― Steven D. Farmer , Adult Children of Abusive Parents: A Healing Program for Those Who Have Been Physically, Sexually, or Emotionally Abused
27 " Our parents did not know how to empathize with you because their parents did not empathize with them when they were children. If your mother was scolded as a little girl when she cried, she believed that is the proper way to treat a child who cries. If your father was whipped for disobeying, he undoubtedly came to believe that is the way to discipline a child. "
28 " Your mother and father had difficulty relating to your feelings and needs directly because their own needs as children were denied and discounted. Your childhood actions triggered at an unconscious level their own memories and fears from childhood, especially the more unpleasant memories of abuse. They projected these feeling of helplessness and powerlessness onto you, while at the same time identifying strongly with the abuser. You then became a victim to someone more powerful, just as they had been. Thus your parents perpetuated the cycle of abuse without any conscious awareness of their hurt, fear, and sense of helplessness. Instead, they got angry and expressed it by assaulting you or withdrawing from you. You represented to them all that they feared and at one time experienced themselves as children – powerlessness, vulnerability, and lack of control. "
29 " The only problem is that you’re still operating on a survival level. It’s been hard to relax your need to be in control, to trust that you can protect and take care of yourself, or to let other people close to you, to be vulnerable with others. To do so would seem threatening at a very deep level. So you remain isolated, doing your best to “handle” your life. You stay alive, but you don’t thrive. "
