" The only problem is that you’re still operating on a survival level. It’s been hard to relax your need to be in control, to trust that you can protect and take care of yourself, or to let other people close to you, to be vulnerable with others. To do so would seem threatening at a very deep level.  So you remain isolated, doing your best to “handle” your life. You stay alive, but you don’t thrive. "

― Steven D. Farmer , Adult Children of Abusive Parents: A Healing Program for Those Who Have Been Physically, Sexually, or Emotionally Abused