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1 " Hurting people hurt people. "
― Andrea Anderson Polk
2 " What we can name we can heal. "
3 " Our emotions are indicators, not dictators, which means we do not let our emotions govern our behavior. "
― Andrea Anderson Polk , The Cuckoo Syndrome: The Secret to Breaking Free from Unhealthy Relationships, Toxic Thinking, and Self-Sabotaging Behavior
4 " The need to control is rooted in fear. "
5 " It is not possible to grow spiritually beyond your emotional immaturity. "
6 " Conviction is rooted in love. Shame is rooted in fear. "
7 " One of the most toxic relationships we endure is the relationship we have with ourselves. The most common yet subtle behavior I witness my clients suffer from is through the defense mechanism of "projectizing, " a psychological term coined, which is a deeper and more dangerous form of perfectionism. Projectizing = Making oneself a project that needs to be fixed. When we make ourselves a project, we disconnect from our true self because we do not know who we are or what we want, need, and feel. We are trying to fix ourselves instead. We are not a problem to be solved; we are a person worth of love and compassion. "
8 " One of the most toxic relationships we endure is the relationship we have with ourselves. The most common yet subtle behavior I witness my clients suffer from is through the defense mechanism of "projectizing," a psychological term I coined, which is a deeper and more dangerous form of perfectionism. Projectizing = Making oneself a project that needs to be fixed. When we make ourselves a project, we disconnect from our true self because we do not know who we are or what we want, need, and feel. We are trying to fix ourselves instead. We are not a prob "
9 " Spiritually speaking, have you ever noticed that the one question God doesn’t answer is “Why?” Why often provides a diversion from our emotions, because we don’t want to feel, we want to know. This is dangerous as it disconnects us from ourselves, others, and even God. "
