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1 " In the very same books that tell us to locate our self-worth not in how we look but in who we are and how we feel – there is a consistent, entrenched fear of fatness. "
― Ruby Tandoh
2 " No doubt some people, probably guys, will be thrown off balance by your forthrightness. Who cares. Eat their leftovers. If they carry on judging you, eat them, too. "
― Ruby Tandoh , Eat Up: Food, Appetite and Eating What You Want
3 " When we feed each other, we give a bit of ourselves to form the fabric of someone else. "
4 " All we can really do is to take the revolution a meal at a time. Be the first woman in the office to take a biscuit from the communal tin; be the person brave enough to take the last one, too. In the company of people you feel comfortable with and safe around, eat your heart out. Practise ordering greedily on dates. Be the only person at the table to get a dessert. When it arrives, don't share it. Try out speaking your mind when you're alone -- talk to yourself in the mirror, saying things like 'I would like you to go down on me, and I want the last slice of the strudel.' No doubt some people, probably guys, will be thrown off balance by your forthrightness. Who cares. Eat their leftovers. If they carry on judging you, eat them, too. "
5 " The people may be different, the flavours unusual or the places far off, but the message- that food informs who we are, and how we love – stays true. "
6 " the enjoyment we get from our food is intimately connected to the nutritional power of that food. "
7 " The way you feel about food sits hand in hand with the way you feel about yourself, and if you eat happily and wholeheartedly, food will make you strong. I "
8 " You can sit in front of the campfire with toasted marshmallow melted into your beard because, goddammit, life goes on. "
9 " There's a temptation to hole yourself up in the kitchen as though in some kind of cocoon when the bad times hit. "
10 " It’s strange the way your first relationships – or situationships – can fuck with you just enough to linger for years. Our relationships with these stories can be even more toxic and damaging than the people who inspired them. Because some idiot made you feel worthless, theirs is the legacy you’ve chosen to let define you, to gauge your merit by. Every guy morphs into that guy, and every “challenge” is another chance to fix past failures – as if the validation of another person would ever be enough. And it takes years for you to realize that you will never be happy until you let this go.You can’t force self-worth, and you can’t rush emotional recovery, and you can’t hurry through breaking patterns you’ve kept in place to keep you safe. "
― Ruby Tandoh , Do What You Want
