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61 " I wish I'd been more.. I don't know... intentional. "
― Meg Jay , The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter—And How to Make the Most of Them Now
62 " Twenty somethings who aren't at least a little scared about their relationships are often the ones who are being the least thoughtful. "
63 " Knowing you want to do something isn’t the same as knowing how to do it, and even knowing how to do something isn’t the same as actually doing it well. "
64 " The Great Recession and its continuing aftermath have left many twenty-somethings feeling naïve, even devastated.Twenty-somethings are more educated than ever before, but a smaller percentage find work after college. Many entry-level jobs have gone overseas, making it more difficult for twenty-somethings to gain a foothold at home. With a contracting economy and a growing population, unemployment is at its highest in decades. An unpaid internship is the new starter job. About a quarter of twenty-somethings are out of work and another quarter work only part-time. Twenty-somethings who do have paying jobs earn less than their 1970s counterparts when adjusted for inflation. "
65 " Real confidence comes from mastery experiences, which are actual, lived moments of success, especially when things seem difficult. "
66 " I feel like I’m in the middle of the ocean. Like I could swim in any direction but I can’t see land on any side so I don’t know which way to go. I feel like I just have to keep hooking up and see what sticks. I didn’t know I’d be crying in the bathroom at work every day. The twentysomething years are a whole new way of thinking about time. There’s this big chunk of time and a whole bunch of stuff needs to happen somehow. My sister is thirty-five and single. I’m terrified that’s going to happen to me. I can’t wait to be liberated from my twenties. I’d better not still be doing this at thirty. Last night I prayed for just one thing in my life to be certain. "
67 " Interviewers want to hear a reasonable story about the past, present, and future. "
68 " Researchers who have looked at how people resolve identity crises have found that lives that are all capital and no crisis—all work and no exploration—feel rigid and conventional. "
69 " To benefit from the anger that we fell, we must move from being a victim to being an activist, at least on our own behalf. "
― Meg Jay , Supernormal: The Untold Story of Adversity and Resilience
70 " [Society] is structured to distract people from the decisions that have a huge impact on happiness in order to focus attention on the decisions that have a marginal impact on happiness. The most important decision any of us make is who we marry. Yet there are no courses on how to choose a spouse. —David Brooks, political and cultural commentator "
71 " Success often came not from being in the right place at the right time, but from being able to recognise being in the right place at the right time. "
72 " Older spouses may be more mature, but later marriage has its own challenges. Rather than growing together while their twentysomething selves are still forming, partners who marry older may be more set in their ways. And a series of low-commitment, possibly destructive relationships can create bad habits and erode faith in love. And even though searching may help you find a better partner, the pool of available singles shallows over time, perhaps in more ways than one. "
73 " Knowing you want to do something isn't the same as knowing how to do it, and even knowing how to do something isn't the same as actually doing it well. "
74 " people who have some control over their emotions report greater life satisfaction, optimism, purpose, and better relationships with others. "
75 " As a twentysomething, life is still more about potential than proof. Those who can tell a good story about who they are and what they want leap over those who can’t. "
76 " For some, life may be about neatly building on Phi Beta Kappa or an Ivy League degree. More often, identities and careers are made not out of college majors and GPAs but out of a couple of door-opening pieces of identity capital "
77 " Real confidence comes from mastery experiences, which are actual, lived moments of success, especially when things seem difficult. Whether we are talking about love or work, the confidence that overrides insecurity comes from experience. There is no other way. "
78 " слишком часто перекладывая на других свою боль, мы не научимся самостоятельно преодолевать трудности, брать себя в руки тогда, когда наш мозг больше всего готов к освоению новых навыков "
79 " в наше время возраст от двадцати до тридцати лет стал тем периодом, когда юноши и девушки могут распоряжаться своей жизнью по собственному усмотрению и располагают необходимыми для этого средствами. "
80 " Weak ties feel too different or, in some cases, literally too far away to be close friends. But that’s the point. Because they’re not just figures in an already ingrown cluster, weak ties give us access to something fresh. They know things and people that we don’t know. Information and opportunity spread farther and faster through weak ties than through close friends because weak ties have fewer overlapping contacts. Weak ties are like bridges you cannot see all the way across, so there is no telling where they might lead. "