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1 " God’s forgiveness doesn’t come cheaply, nor is it a ticket to do what we jolly well please because there’s a get out of jail free card at the end. Instead, it is the life-changing embrace of love that welcomes us when we’ve no reason to expect it. We cannot fail deeply enough for God to give us up. "
― Peggy Haymes , Strugglers, Stragglers and Seekers: daily devotions for the rest of us
2 " Contrary to what a lot of people believe (or hope), comfort doesn’t take the pain away. Comfort slides in beside the pain, pulling up a chair so that we have something more than sorrow in our hearts. Comfort gently expands our spirits so that we can breathe again. Comfort opens our eyes so that we can see possibility again. And on those days, whether it is the next day or five years removed, on that day when grief rears its dark head again, comfort helps us remember that pain is not all there is "
3 " Love may challenge and love may correct but love will never shame. Love may call us out to uncomfortable places but love will never cast us aside. Love may demand but will never demean. Love will never ask us to dim our light lest we shine too brightly. Love will never ask us to be less than we were created to be.By this we know God. By this we follow Jesus. By this we serve one another.Love. Not fear. "
4 " People have been fed a Lean Cuisine® in the name of Jesus and told that it was a feast and they’ve decided there must not be much to this faith stuff after all. People see folks who bear the name of Christ who are acting loudly out of fear and have decided that peace must be found elsewhere. People are hungry to be a part of something that matters and to know that they matter. "
5 " We numb our minds and heart so one need not be broken and the other need not be bothered. "
― Peggy Haymes
6 " In the end when God does speak, it is not the pious friends who are commended. God tells then they have been guilty of misrepresenting God. Only Job – only angry, defiant, doubting Job has been faithful.The story of Job reminds us that God is not offended when we question. Indeed, if anything God is offended when we speak too glibly. Make room in your heart for the angry, defiant and doubting questions. You may find God there as well. "
7 " If you think something’s too hard, it will be. If you think it’s just not possible or not possible for you, then you’ll probably be right. If you think it can’t be done then you’re not the person to do it. Because you’ll fail. "
8 " Avoiding conflict isn’t peacemaking. Avoiding conflict means running away from the mess while peacemaking means running into the middle of it. Peacemaking means addressing those issues that caused conflict in the first place. Peacemaking can never be separated from doing justice. They go hand in hand. Peacemaking means having to stir the waters on the way to peace. Peacemaking means speaking the truth in love, but speaking the truth nonetheless. "
9 " Telling yourself not to be sad is about as effective as telling a wave not to crash onto the beach. "
― Peggy Haymes , How to Heal From the Loss of Your Cat
10 " Grief is like a bright yellow marker. It highlights the empty space in our hearts. It honors the importance of what we have lost, how much it mattered in our lives. "
11 " If there was something to learn from the loss, then allow yourself to embrace the lessons. Perhaps you learned a sad lesson that a cat can really get through that small space at the bottom of your fence. Or you learned that you needed not to ignore symptoms. Or maybe you just learned that when you love a cat and a cat loves you back, their absence leaves a much larger hole than you’d ever imagined possible. Whatever the lesson, allow yourself to take it and leave the guilt behind. When we are able to learn our lessons give meaning to whatever happened. It is not simply a bad thing. It is a bad thing that becomes the ground for better things. "
