" If there was something to learn from the loss, then allow yourself to embrace the lessons. Perhaps you learned a sad lesson that a cat can really get through that small space at the bottom of your fence. Or you learned that you needed not to ignore symptoms. Or maybe you just learned that when you love a cat and a cat loves you back, their absence leaves a much larger hole than you’d ever imagined possible. Whatever the lesson, allow yourself to take it and leave the guilt behind. When we are able to learn our lessons give meaning to whatever happened. It is not simply a bad thing. It is a bad thing that becomes the ground for better things. "

― Peggy Haymes , How to Heal From the Loss of Your Cat