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Bruce D. Perry QUOTES

1 " The saddest aspect of life right now is that science gathers knowledge faster than society gathers wisdom. "

― Bruce D. Perry , What Happened To You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing

2 " The more healthy relationships a child has, the more likely he will be to recover from trauma and thrive. Relationships are the agents of change and the most powerful therapy is human love. "

― Bruce D. Perry , The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog: And Other Stories from a Child Psychiatrist's Notebook

3 " Surprisingly, it is often when wandering through the emotional carnage left by the worst of humankind that we find the best of humanity ad well. "

― Bruce D. Perry

4 " We ignore the emotional needs of young children at our peril. "

― Bruce D. Perry , Born for Love: Why Empathy Is Essential--and Endangered

5 " Reducing economic inequality and helping victims of domestic violence and child abuse are critical if we want to cut violence and crime. "

― Bruce D. Perry , The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog: And Other Stories from a Child Psychiatrist's Notebook

6 " We need to allow children to try and fail. And when they do make the stupid, shortsighted decisions that come from inexperience, we need to let them suffer the results. At the same time we also need to provide balance by not setting policies that will magnify one mistake, like drug use or fighting, into a life-derailing catastrophe. Unfortunately, this is exactly what our current "zero tolerance" policies-
—that expel children from school for just one rule violation—do. "

― Bruce D. Perry , The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog: And Other Stories from a Child Psychiatrist's Notebook

7 " ...anything new will activate our stress-response systems. Our default response to novelty is "Uh-oh. What is this?" And until the new thing is proven safe and positive, it will be categorized as a potential threat. "

― Bruce D. Perry , What Happened To You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing

8 " Across generations, wariness of new individuals, groups, and ideas was built into the circuits of the human brain's alarm response because those who had this wariness were more likely to survive to reproduce. It was just safer to assume danger- and expect the worst- than to count on the kindness of strangers. "

― Bruce D. Perry , Born for Love: Why Empathy Is Essential--and Endangered

9 " La memoria es la capacidad de seguir adelante arrastrando ciertos
aspectos de la experiencia. Incluso los músculos tienen memoria, algo que
puede apreciarse con los cambios que se producen en ellos como resultado
del ejercicio. No obstante, y más importante aún, la memoria es lo que el
cerebro hace, el modo en que nos forma, y permite que nuestro pasado ayude
a determinar nuestro futuro. En gran medida, el cerebro nos convierte en
quienes somos(...). "

― Bruce D. Perry , A Child's Loss: Helping Children Exposed to Traumatic Death (The ChildTrauma Academy Press Caregiver Series Book 1)

10 " Ambos factores son importantes para el funcionamiento de la memoria: si no nos volviéramos tolerantes a las experiencias conocidas, siempre nos resultarían nuevas y potencialmente abrumadoras. El cerebro probablemente se quedaría sin capacidad de almacenaje, como un ordenador viejo. De manera similar, si no nos volviéramos cada vez más sensibles a ciertas cosas, no seríamos capaces de mejorar el modo de responder ante ellas. "

― Bruce D. Perry , The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog: And Other Stories from a Child Psychiatrist's Notebook

11 " Creamos recuerdos, pero los recuerdos también nos crean a nosotros, y se trata de un proceso dinámico en constante cambio que está sujeto a sesgos e influencias de diversas fuentes ajenas al acontecimiento actual que tenemos "almacenado". Lo que experimentamos primero filtra lo que vendrá después. "

― Bruce D. Perry , The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog: And Other Stories from a Child Psychiatrist's Notebook

12 " Para poder desenvolverse socialmente, la gente necesita desarrollar lo que se conoce como "teoría de la mente". Dicho de otro modo, necesitan saber que las demás personas son distintas a ellos, que tienen un conocimiento distinto del mundo, así como deseos e intereses diferentes a los suyos. "

― Bruce D. Perry , The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog: And Other Stories from a Child Psychiatrist's Notebook

13 " For years mental health professionals taught people that they could be psychologically healthy without social support, that “unless you love yourself, no one else will love you.”…The truth is, you cannot love yourself unless you have been loved and are loved. The capacity to love cannot be built in isolation "

― Bruce D. Perry , The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog: And Other Stories from a Child Psychiatrist's Notebook

14 " The truth is, you cannot love yourself unless you have been loved and are loved. The capacity to love cannot be built in isolation. "

― Bruce D. Perry , The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog: And Other Stories from a Child Psychiatrist's Notebook

15 " Fire can warm or consume,
water can quench or drown,
wind can caress or cut.

And so it is with human relationshps;
we can both create and destroy,
nurture and terrorize,
traumatize and heal each other "

― Bruce D. Perry

16 " Fire can warm or consume, water can quench or drown, wind can caress or cut. And so it is with human relationships: we can both create and destroy, nurture and terrorize, traumatize and heal each other. "

― Bruce D. Perry , The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog: And Other Stories from a Child Psychiatrist's Notebook

17 " What I’ve learned from talking to so many victims of traumatic events, abuse, or neglect is that after absorbing these painful experiences, the child begins to ache. A deep longing to feel needed, validated, and valued begins to take hold. As these children grow, they lack the ability to set a standard for what they deserve. And if that lack is not addressed, what often follows is a complicated, frustrating pattern of self-sabotage, violence, promiscuity, or addiction. "

― Bruce D. Perry , What Happened To You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing

18 " Relationships matter: the currency for systemic change was trust, and trust comes through forming healthy working relationships. People, not programs, change people. "

― Bruce D. Perry , The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog: And Other Stories from a Child Psychiatrist's Notebook

19 " We elicit from the world what we project into the world; but what you project is based upon what happened to you as a child. "

― Bruce D. Perry , What Happened To You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing

20 " The most traumatic aspects of all disasters involve the shattering of human connections. And this is especially true for children. Being harmed by the people who are supposed to love you, being abandoned by them, being robbed of the one-on-one relationships that allow you to feel safe and valued and to become humane—these are profoundly destructive experiences. Because humans are inescapably social beings, the worst catastrophes that can befall us inevitably involve relational loss. As a result, recovery from trauma and neglect is also all about relationships—rebuilding trust, regaining confidence, returning to a sense of security and reconnecting to love. Of course, medications can help relieve symptoms and talking to a therapist can be incredibly useful. But healing and recovery are impossible—even with the best medications and therapy in the world—without lasting, caring connections to others. "

― Bruce D. Perry , The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog: And Other Stories from a Child Psychiatrist's Notebook