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Together: Why Social Connection Holds the Key to Better Health, Higher Performance, and Greater Happiness QUOTES

21 " We all need to know that we matter and that we are loved. "

― Vivek H. Murthy , Together: Why Social Connection Holds the Key to Better Health, Higher Performance, and Greater Happiness

22 " To be real is to be vulnerable, "

― Vivek H. Murthy , Together: Why Social Connection Holds the Key to Better Health, Higher Performance, and Greater Happiness

23 " it’s the painfulness of the disconnection. "

― Vivek H. Murthy , Together: Why Social Connection Holds the Key to Better Health, Higher Performance, and Greater Happiness

24 " loneliness overlaps with and is often inherited with anxiety disorders or depression. "

― Vivek H. Murthy , Together: Why Social Connection Holds the Key to Better Health, Higher Performance, and Greater Happiness

25 " They also can feed off each other, as depression and anxiety make it harder to connect with other people, and this can deepen the pain of loneliness. "

― Vivek H. Murthy , Together: Why Social Connection Holds the Key to Better Health, Higher Performance, and Greater Happiness

26 " Others didn’t even realize that loneliness was what they were feeling. "

― Vivek H. Murthy , Together: Why Social Connection Holds the Key to Better Health, Higher Performance, and Greater Happiness

27 " Whether we realize it or not, the pace of change has created the impression that we have only two choices: adapt quickly to stay marketable, employable, and desirable; or fall back and lose out. This sets up a state of competition between tradition and innovation, between old and young, between online and physical communities, and between transactional and human interactions "

― Vivek H. Murthy , Together: Why Social Connection Holds the Key to Better Health, Higher Performance, and Greater Happiness

28 " Shifting social networks now often preempt family networks. We have robots that function as companions for our elderly, and virtual playmates that replace human friends. Games in cyberspace keep kids in rooms by themselves instead of engaging in face-to-face interactions with their peers. And this all has happened so fast that few of us even realize what these changes are doing to our social lives, skills, and spirits. In fact, we are being tossed like twigs in a stiff breeze, unable to get our bearings as we unwittingly lose sight of what matters and who matters to us. We still have the wiring for connection within us, but the more time and attention we lavish on racing to be current, the greater the risk we run that our innate social systems will falter and fail us due to neglect. "

― Vivek H. Murthy , Together: Why Social Connection Holds the Key to Better Health, Higher Performance, and Greater Happiness

29 " strong emotional connections that are encouraged, where people talk to one another and share honestly and openly on a regular basis. "

― Vivek H. Murthy , Together: Why Social Connection Holds the Key to Better Health, Higher Performance, and Greater Happiness

30 " Research has found that humans are incapable of attending to multiple activities at once. What we’re actually doing when “multitasking” is switching back and forth very rapidly between tasks, attending to each one separately but briefly. As MIT neuroscientist Dr. Earl Miller explained in a 2008 interview on NPR,9 “Switching from task to task, you think you’re actually paying attention to everything around you at the same time. But you’re actually not. "

― Vivek H. Murthy , Together: Why Social Connection Holds the Key to Better Health, Higher Performance, and Greater Happiness

31 " Loneliness is the subjective feeling that you’re lacking the social connections you need. It can feel like being stranded, abandoned, or cut off from the people with whom you belong—even if you’re surrounded by other people. What’s missing when you’re lonely is the feeling of closeness, trust, and the affection of genuine friends, loved ones, and community. "

― Vivek H. Murthy , Together: Why Social Connection Holds the Key to Better Health, Higher Performance, and Greater Happiness

32 " we have a universal need to connect with one another. "

― Vivek H. Murthy , Together: Why Social Connection Holds the Key to Better Health, Higher Performance, and Greater Happiness

33 " But detaching from technology is more difficult if we use it as an emotional escape, to avoid sadness, conflict, disappointment—and the hard, deep work of relationship. Instead of meeting in person to talk about misunderstandings or find shared solutions to real problems, we can just slip into cyberspace and spend hours among “friends” who won’t ask the hard questions. It is an easier path—but one that ultimately leads to more loneliness. "

― Vivek H. Murthy , Together: Why Social Connection Holds the Key to Better Health, Higher Performance, and Greater Happiness

34 " While loneliness engenders despair and ever more isolation, togetherness raises optimism and creativity. When people feel they belong to one another, their lives are stronger, richer, and more joyful "

― Vivek H. Murthy , Together: Why Social Connection Holds the Key to Better Health, Higher Performance, and Greater Happiness

35 " To be at home is to be known. It is to be loved for who you are. It is to share a sense of common ground, common interests, pursuits, and values with others who truly care about you. In community after community, I met lonely people who felt homeless even though they had a roof over their heads. "

― Vivek H. Murthy , Together: Why Social Connection Holds the Key to Better Health, Higher Performance, and Greater Happiness

36 " the power of gratitude can be delivered in the smallest of moments "

― Vivek H. Murthy , Together: Why Social Connection Holds the Key to Better Health, Higher Performance, and Greater Happiness

37 " nature. Meditation, prayer, art, music, and time spent outdoors can all be sources of solitary comfort and joy. Help and be helped. Service is a form of human connection that reminds us of our value and purpose in life. Giving and receiving, both, strengthen our social bonds—checking on a neighbor, seeking advice, even just offering a smile to a stranger six feet away, all can make us stronger. "

― Vivek H. Murthy , Together: Why Social Connection Holds the Key to Better Health, Higher Performance, and Greater Happiness

38 " Her emotions were simply warning her that her life was out of balance, that she needed to tend to her social needs. Loneliness was signaling, not accusing her. It was trying to help by reminding her just how vitally she needed to reconnect "

― Vivek H. Murthy , Together: Why Social Connection Holds the Key to Better Health, Higher Performance, and Greater Happiness

39 " Dunbar points out that any form of physical exercise will produce an endorphin kick, but having a partner and working out in sync will dramatically escalate the reward. This is true of jogging, biking, dancing—virtually any form of exercise. "

― Vivek H. Murthy , Together: Why Social Connection Holds the Key to Better Health, Higher Performance, and Greater Happiness

40 " In 2018, one major poll found that 79 percent of American adults are concerned that the “negative tone and lack of civility in Washington will lead to violence or acts of terror. "

― Vivek H. Murthy , Together: Why Social Connection Holds the Key to Better Health, Higher Performance, and Greater Happiness