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1 " Our culture has done everything in its power to rid itself of having to think of death and its consequences. As a result, we don’t talk about it, think about it, or do a very good job preparing ourselves for its certain arrival. As a result, we enter into the grieving process unprepared for what lies ahead. We don’t realize the range of emotions we are going to face, and we often don’t even know how to reach out to those around us for their help and comfort. What’s even worse is that many feel uneasy giving comfort, because it isn’t “the thing to do” in our society. We are all supposed to be able to “handle things on our own.” Well, grief is not handled well alone. God made us social beings, and when we lose a loved one, we desire and need the help and assistance of others. Give "
― James R. White , Grieving: Your Path Back to Peace
2 " Anger must be dealt with. It cannot be ignored. Anger is a very strong emotion and, if left to itself, will trap us in destructive attitudes and viewpoints. "
3 " One negative side of grief is that it focuses us inward upon ourselves, often leading to lapses of patience and gentleness with those around us. "
4 " Sadly, some Christians think that they should not grieve. “My loved one is in a better place, so why should I grieve?” Yes, your loved one may well be in a better place, but you have lost an important part of your life, and that causes mourning and grief. We miss that person and the love we shared. Being a Christian does not remove your human feelings from you. You will grieve that loss, just like every other human being. So "
5 " Most people do not feel the full force of their loss and the emotional toll it will exact for a good four to six months after the loss. Many report that the fifth, sixth, and seventh months are the darkest and most difficult. Of course, in our society you are expected to be “over it” in about two weeks and back to work, ready to put it all behind you. Our society really doesn’t handle grief very well. In "
