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As For Me And My House: Crafting Your Marriage To Last QUOTES

1 " Mutuality is accomplished by two whole persons; and if each partner truly intends to be but the fraction of a relationship (thinking my whole makes up half of us) he or she will soon discover that these halves do not fit perfectly together. The mathematics can work only if each subtracts something of himself or herself, shears it off, and lays it aside forever. There will come, then, a moment of shock when one spouse realizes, ‘you won’t want the whole of me? Not the whole of me, but only a part of me, makes up the whole of us?” P 45 "

― Walter Wangerin Jr. , As For Me And My House: Crafting Your Marriage To Last

2 " In your attempts to heal this beloved one, the Holy Spirit finds opportunity to keep the promise of Jesus - and indeed, to heal. "

― Walter Wangerin Jr. , As For Me And My House: Crafting Your Marriage To Last

3 " Have you noticed the words which Old Testament people use when someone important calls them by name? They don't say "What?" or "Yes?" They answer with the curious sentence, "Here I am". So much is in that sentence: readiness to respond, a willing servitude, an offering of oneself to the other. "

― Walter Wangerin Jr. , As For Me And My House: Crafting Your Marriage To Last

4 " And the strongest trust is built by the smallest actions, the keeping of the little promises. It is the constant truthfulness, the continued dependability, the remembrance of minor things, which most inspire confidence and faith. "

― Walter Wangerin Jr. , As For Me And My House: Crafting Your Marriage To Last

5 " You are married. Healing is not a profession but a way of life. Your spouse is not your patient but your flesh. Healing, then, is a task for your heart as well as your head and your hand. "

― Walter Wangerin Jr. , As For Me And My House: Crafting Your Marriage To Last

6 " She had caused to surround us the very atmosphere of "home," so that however far we traveled, however strange the territory, I was "home" as long as I was with her. "

― Walter Wangerin Jr. , As For Me And My House: Crafting Your Marriage To Last

7 " But the talk of dialogue involves the work of knowing, acknowledging the other, of shaping speech toward him, for her. It is neither done or done well until it has been well received by that particular hearer. "

― Walter Wangerin Jr. , As For Me And My House: Crafting Your Marriage To Last

8 " That is what grace does. It comes as a surprise; it lingers in the rare atmosphere of love, since love itself is breathed by it and love by it is made manifest. This expression of love is "ecstasy" in the Greek meaning of that word: to "stand outside" the ordinary, outside predetermined marital contracts, outside the systematic and the expected "

― Walter Wangerin Jr. , As For Me And My House: Crafting Your Marriage To Last

9 " And "sharing the work of survival," therefore, means resisting every temptation towards independence, towards personal liberty, towards "doing your own thing". This takes s sober vigilance and a persistent labour in a world which elevates the individual above the community, in a society which claims that individual desires are more important than contracts, commitments, and the good of the family "

― Walter Wangerin Jr. , As For Me And My House: Crafting Your Marriage To Last

10 " When a desire is born in us , we have a choice. When it exists still in its infancy, we have a choice. We can carefully refuse its existence altogether, since it needs our complicity to exist. Or else we can attend to it, think about it, fantasize about it - feed it! The desire itself overpowers us, commanding action, demanding satisfaction. "

― Walter Wangerin Jr. , As For Me And My House: Crafting Your Marriage To Last

11 " In the bedroom the truer, unpremeditated behavior of intimacy appears, the way this spouse relates to others on the most personal level, body to body and soul to soul. Is he truly patient in sexuality? So he seemed on long spring evenings. Or does he push forward at his own speed to his own satisfaction? And does he consider his satisfaction the measure of his prowess? As he acts here, uncovered, so does he act—more subtly and covertly—in the rest of the marriage.” P35 "

― Walter Wangerin Jr. , As For Me And My House: Crafting Your Marriage To Last

12 " True "volunteering," then, obeys no law, seeks no returns, pays no debts, plans no praise for yourself, nor proves your goodness "

― Walter Wangerin Jr. , As For Me And My House: Crafting Your Marriage To Last

13 " Volunteering" also honours the sort of work your spouse is obliged to do if you choose cheerfully to do it for him or her. It abolished distinctions and degrees of value. All work is valuable in the house where no work is held in contempt, and where love is not kept in hiding. "

― Walter Wangerin Jr. , As For Me And My House: Crafting Your Marriage To Last