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1 " To an unhealed heart, true love is a scary thing to face. "
― Stephan Labossiere , The Man God Has For You: 7 Traits To Help You Determine Your Life Partner
2 " It all comes together when you get right yourself and find your purpose. When you love yourself, heal, get rid of past hurts, disappointments, and flush that negative energy out of your system. You become the woman you were created to be and that is a beautiful thing. "
3 " While in this process, you are doing your part and becoming your best self. Regardless of what happens romantically in your life, becoming your best self is most important. "
4 " Not healing from your past prevents you from moving forward and when love comes your way, you will run. Of course, it sounds crazy to run from love and not take advantage of it when it comes your way; however, when you haven’t let go of past hurt and pain, it blocks you from being vulnerable. Vulnerability is necessary for you to not just receive love, but also give it. It is the bridge that assists with nurturing the type of relationship God wants for you. Lack of healing will prevent you from accepting that love. "
5 " I always say you cannot create, nor destroy, a genuine connection. "
6 " If there is no effort to make better choices or walk a better path, then it is not a mistake but a real issue. "
7 " is not going to be the perfect in that he will never do anything wrong. We all slip up. We are human beings. We sin, we do bad things sometimes—that is life. "
8 " There is not enough encouragement for people to seek counseling. Seeking counseling or third party, unbiased assistance is good for you. It is healthy. We all need a greater state of emotional health and we gain that by being able to process what we have been through, how we are feeling, as well as work through the issues we have ignored throughout our lives. Whether we want to acknowledge it or not, it is impacting our physical, mental, and, emotional health. Addressing these issues is important, so if you see a problem encourage counseling. "
9 " Get to know who you are, love who you are, show the world. Then, the man that is for you, who truly loves you, will embrace that person. "
10 " Perfection is unrealistic; therefore, there is no perfect man and there is no perfect man of God. Many times we place expectations on people once they have accepted God. It is an assumption that now they are supposed to get it all right. They are not allowed to sin, have faults, or struggle. The minute we view it, we take it as proof that they are not serious, not truly a believer, a hypocrite, or just playing games. "
11 " There are plenty of women right now, who are not walking in their purpose because they are trying to walk with the wrong man, and he is holding them back. He becomes an anchor in their life. They are stuck, unable to progress the way God intended. "
12 " Be willing to give all of yourself and if you are not ready, then you know there is work to be done. Do not be afraid of it. We all have room for improvement and things we need to work on in life. We all have to embrace learning, growing, evolving and healing because we have all been hurt. We have all been damaged at some point. But there are those who work, resolve, and arise from it greater than ever, and those who dwell in it. Make sure you are not the one who is dwelling in it. "
13 " I can’t tell you how many women I come across who fear being with a really good looking guy. For just as many women who love being with a man other women desire, there are just as many who fear it. It is clear there is a deeper issue that needs to be addressed "
14 " It is possible you were raised in a dysfunctional home. A lot of people have been around negative, unhealthy, toxic behavior and, to some extent, tried to normalize it. They paint the picture as “this is just what happens in relationships.” When this environment is normalized, you do not realize or grasp how unhealthy it is. You begin to validate, rationalize, explain and sweep it under the rug. What is evident is that it is a problem and should not be dismissed. "
15 " A mistake happens once with the issue being acknowledged. Even if it happened twice, it is unlikely for the two incidents to occur in a short span of time and still be regarded as a mistake. "
16 " If a person does not acknowledge what they did, if they do not take ownership of it, then you are not dealing with a mistake_it is a real issue. It is a much bigger problem because nothing can be fixed if that person sees no wrong in what they did, if they continually defend, validate or excuse it. It is a clear indication that it will, without a doubt, happen again. "
17 " You know what, I have someone in my life but I’m a little scared of the situation, "
18 " Side note: Do not be an emotional manipulator. If you do not want a man to play with your emotions, do not play with his. As of late I’ve found physical attraction is no longer enough. I need genuine connection. I need to undress the layers of a soul…passion remains the fire, but now intimacy strikes the match, and friendship has become the fuel. – Beau Tapin "
19 " There are people who have not seen each other in ten, twenty, or thirty years and when they get together, it is as if nothing has changed, the feelings resurface. "
20 " But you can also run away from a connection. When you are afraid to be vulnerable, you put up walls and hold back which can cause the man to do the same. You may believe the wall is there to protect and guard your heart, but as I mentioned in God Where Is My Boaz, you are actually just blocking your blessings. "