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21 " We cannot attune if we assume certain feelings are right and others wrong. To attune to someone, we need neutrality toward all feelings, moods, and inner states and the fearless openness of mindfulness. "
― David Richo , How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving
22 " We feel loved when we receive attention, acceptance, appreciation, and affection, and when we are allowed the freedom to live in accord with our own deepest needs and wishes. "
23 " To will is truly to want something, to choose both the goal and the means to goal. This means accepting the work and the risks involved in seeing something through. To wish, on the other hand, is only to be enamored of the goal. "
24 " Love is experienced differently by each of us, but for most of us five aspects of love stand out. We feel loved when we receive attention, acceptance, appreciation, and affection, and when we are allowed the freedom to live in accord with our own deepest needs and wishes. "
25 " Attention from others leads to self-respect. Acceptance engenders a sense of being inherently a good person. Appreciation generates a sense of self-worth. Affection makes us feel lovable. Allowing gives us the freedom to pursue our own deepest needs, values, and wishes. "
26 " Beings as complex as ourselves need retreats from others to explore the depths of our character and our destiny. We need regular periods of solitude to replenish ourselves, to locate new sources of creativity and self-knowledge, and to discover possibilities in our souls that are invisible when we are with others. "
27 " It took just such evil and painful things for the great emancipation to occur,” Nietzsche said. He is also the one who said that what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger. "