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He's a Stud, She's a Slut, and 49 Other Double Standards Every Woman Should Know QUOTES

He's a Stud, She's a Slut, and 49 Other Double Standards Every Woman Should Know QUOTES

1 " Be as pissed off as you want to be. Don’t hold back because you think it’s unladylike or some such nonsense. We shouldn’t be shamed out of our anger. We should be using it. Using it to make change in our own lives, and using it to make change in the lives around us. (I know, I’m cheesy.) So the next time someone calls you emotional, or asks if you’re PMSing, call them on their bullshit. "

― Jessica Valenti , He's a Stud, She's a Slut, and 49 Other Double Standards Every Woman Should Know

2 " My least favorite form of street harassment is when a guy asks why I’m not smiling. It’s related to that: Women aren’t allowed to be quiet or stoic or shy—or, hell, just in a bad mood—without being criticized. Women are bitchy and frigid if we don’t seem accessible at all times, for the most part to men. We’re supposed to be perpetually friendly. Who wants to live up to that? And seriously, when was the last time you heard a quiet woman described as “deep”?
Men who are serious are just that—serious. Think laconic cowboys and Clint Eastwood-style movie heroes. Strong and silent is a desirable personality trait for men—women, not so much. Because where silence in men is seen as strength, silence in women (if not seen as bitchy) is seen as weakness—she’s shy, a wallflower. "

― Jessica Valenti , He's a Stud, She's a Slut, and 49 Other Double Standards Every Woman Should Know

3 " When are we going to realize that hating other women - no matter how much money they have or how far they've fallen - is just as bad for ourselves as it is for anyone else? "

― Jessica Valenti , He's a Stud, She's a Slut, and 49 Other Double Standards Every Woman Should Know

4 " It seems the word ‘slut’ can be applied to any activity that doesn’t include knitting, praying, or sitting perfectly still lest any sudden movements be deemed whorish. "

― Jessica Valenti , He's a Stud, She's a Slut, and 49 Other Double Standards Every Woman Should Know

5 " the purpose of the word “slut” is: controlling women through shame and humiliation. Women’s bodies are always the ones that are being vied over for control—whether it’s rape, reproductive rights, or violence against women, it’s our bodies that are the battleground, not men’s. "

― Jessica Valenti , He's a Stud, She's a Slut, and 49 Other Double Standards Every Woman Should Know