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1 " Yet if there's one thing I know with absolute certainty, both personally and professionally, it is this: Nothing will change in our lives until we change our own behavior. Insight won't do it. Understanding why we do the self-defeating things we do won't make us stop doing them. Nagging and pleading with the other person to change won't do it. We have to act. We have to take the first step down a new road. "
― Susan Forward , Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You
2 " Punishers don’t see themselves as punishing, but rather as maintaining order or keeping a firm hand on things or doing “what’s right” or letting us know they can’t be pushed around. They see themselves as strong and in charge. If their behavior hurts us, so be it. The end justifies the means. "
3 " Sok érzelmi zsarnok tapasztalta megdöbbenve, hogy az áldozat megszokott reakciója nélkül az addig jól működő zsarolási technikája kudarcra van ítélve. "
4 " I take a stand for what I believe in. I don’t let fear run my life. I confront people who have injured me. I define who I am rather then being defined by other people. I keep the promises I make to myself. I protect my physical and emotional health. I don’t betray other people. I tell the truth. "