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1 " No one reaches out to you for compassion or empathy so you can teach them how to behave better. They reach out to us because they believe in our capacity to know our darkness well enough to sit in the dark with them. "
― Brené Brown , The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings of Authenticity, Connections and Courage
2 " How much we know ourselves is extremely important but how we treat ourselves is the most important. "
3 " You can't numb those hard feelings without numbing the other affects, our emotions. You cannot selectively numb. So when we numb those, we numb joy, we numb gratitude, we numb happiness. And then we are miserable, and we are looking for purpose and meaning, and then we feel vulnerable, so then we have a couple of beers and a banana nut muffin. And it becomes this dangerous cycle. "
4 " When we lose our tolerance for vulnerability, joy becomes foreboding. "
5 " I can always tell about the health of a culture of an organization by how much gossiping is happening "
6 " Oversharing? Not vulnerability; I call it floodlighting. ... A lot of times we share too much information as a way to protect us from vulnerability, and here's why. I'm scared to let you know that I just wrote this article and I'm under total fire for it and people are making fun of me and I'm feeling hurt -- the same thing that I told someone in an intimate conversation. So what I do is I floodlight you with it - I don't know you very well or I'm in front of a big group, or it's a story that I haven't processed enough to be sharing with other people - and you immediately respond "hands up; push me away" and I go, "See? No one cares about me. No one gives a s*** that I'm hurting. I knew it." It's how we protect ourselves from vulnerability. We just engage in a behavior that confirms our fear. "
7 " You are responsible for the energy you bring into this room. "
8 " The origin of the word "courage" comes from the word "cour", which mean heart, and it means to completely share your story with your whole heart. "
9 " The people who have a strong sense of love and belonging, BELIEVE they are worthy of love and belonging. "
10 " Cuando las personas que amamos, o aquellas por las que sentimos una profunda conexión, dejan de preocuparse por nosotros, de prestarnos atención, de invertir tiempo o de luchar por la relación, la confianza empieza a esfumarse y se abren las heridas. La desconexión desencadena vergüenza y nuestros peores temores: el temor al abandono, a no ser merecedores, a no ser dignos de ser amados. Lo que hace que esta traición encubierta sea mucho más "
11 " Vulnerability is our most accurate measure of courage. "
12 " Ceea ce e paradoxal (sau poate firesc) - după cum aflăm din cercetări - este că-i criticăm pe ceilalți în acele domenii în care suntem vulnerabili la rușine, alegându-i drept „ținte” pe cei care se descurcă mai rău ca noi. Dacă n-am nici un fel de probleme în ceea ce privește modul în care-mi cresc copiii, nu-i judec pe alții pentru alegerile lor. Dacă-mi place corpul meu, nu simt tentația de a-i ironiza pe alții pentru felul cum arată sau fiindcă au probleme cu greutatea. Suntem exigenți unii cu ceilalți din cauză că ne folosim unii de ceilalți, pentru a scăpa de o deficiență percepută, de care ne e rușine. Însă un asemenea comportament nu reușește să-și atingă scopul și dă naștere la suferință. În plus - așa cum ne arată fenomenul „fetei rele”, răspândit în școli și licee în general -, este și contagios. Le-am transmis acest fals mecanism de supraviețuire și copiilor noștri. "
13 " para cultivar una relación, levantar una familia, crear una cultura organizativa, dirigir un colegio, alimentar la fe en la comunidad…, todo ello de un modo que básicamente se opone a las normas culturales que marca la escasez, hace falta ser consciente, comprometerse y trabajárselo... todos los días. "
