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41 " It was not news to him that many people in the world—the entire population of grown-ups, for example—behaved in ways he could not understand. "
― Catherine Ryan Hyde , When I Found You
42 " No. It’s not your job to convince him. It’s his job to believe it. This is his shortcoming, not yours. He needs to think well enough of himself to believe it. And that’s always been a problem for him.” Carol sat a moment with her mouth open before answering. “But…I can’t do anything about that.” “That’s right,” Nathan said. “You can’t. "
43 " used to think everybody got over everything. We always say we never will. But then we do. Because, really, what choice do we have? "
44 " best way to judge what a man will do is by looking at what he’s "
45 " derision. "
46 " It means feelings come through loud and clear whether you express them in words or not. "
47 " Whatever you think your shortcomings are…you can’t just lock yourself in the house so no one can notice or comment. We all have to take ourselves out into the world, flaws and all. And find a way to make the adjustment. "
48 " This is not a sales call, Mr. Farrelly. I do people’s books and taxes. I don’t sell young men. Nat is a grown man. He can speak for himself. If you want to know more about him, why not ask him directly? He’s sitting right over there. "
49 " OK. So your story sadder’n mine. OK. But my story still my story. I mean…even if somebody else got it worse. What I got was bad enough. You know? "
50 " If there's some hidden part of me that thinks like that, I'd rather not go searching for it. "
51 " you had been civil, he would have been the one to look bad. Not you. This way you appear to validate him. You give him all the ammunition he needs. "
52 " I seem to remember that Gandhi once said his commitment was to truth, not consistency. "
53 " What a man eats, he should be willing to kill. It’s not absolutely necessary that he do so, but he should at least be willing to face the reality of it. "
54 " Most big life events are like that. You think they'll be emotionally one-sided, but when you actually get into them, it's always more complex. "
55 " Most people prefer to think that their resentment is entirely the fault of the person they resent, and that twisted logic seems to make sense in their minds. But it makes no sense to me at all. It’s like saying it’s your fault if I shoot you, because the gun is aiming at you. It completely disregards who’s doing the aiming. But it’s a popular point of view. Probably because it’s so much easier. It relieves you of the burden of any and all self-examination. "
56 " Then, yes. It’s civilized. What a man eats, he should be willing to kill. It’s not absolutely necessary that he do so, but he should at least be willing to face the reality of it. To eat a chicken only if it comes from the market is the height of cowardice and denial. Someone still had to kill it. "
57 " We all have to take ourselves out into the world, flaws and all. And find a way to make the adjustment. "
58 " When you assume, you make an ass of you and me. "
59 " Manny "
60 " Because if you had been civil, he would have been the one to look bad. Not you. This way you appear to validate him. You give him all the ammunition he needs. "