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1 " Write it, said Beth. When we narrate our experience, we take control of it. And in controlling the story of our past, we can create a better future. "
― Lisa Unger , Confessions on the 7:45
2 " People didn’t fall in love with other people. They fell in love with how other people made them feel about themselves. And so, it was easy to get someone to love you—if you knew how they wanted to feel. "
3 " When we narrate our experience, we take control of it. And in controlling the story of our past, we can create a better future. "
4 " I mean—are some men just flawed by nature? Or do we enable their bad behavior, make it worse in a way because we hide it, and don’t demand better from them? "
5 " Nobody told you that wen you became a parent, you became a child again; it was early bedtimes and grilled cheese sandwiches for all. Every date night was a negotiation, every invitation that you actually had the desire or energy to accept became a strategic maneuver that may or may not work out after all. "
6 " All women are mysteries.” “Only men think that,” said Pearl. “Largely because they’re not paying attention. "
7 " There was no undoing the bad without losing the good. That was the trick of it all. "
8 " If she was honest with herself, the challenge of Graham excited her at first. She amped up her fitness routine, wore the sexiest underwear she could find. She made him chase. Blocked his calls sometimes, even stood him up once. Once upon a time, she’d been the woman sending dirty texts. His excitement excited her. That’s why she thought she’d left Will for Graham. Because Graham excited her. Because life with him, what it would be, could be, seemed like a mystery, an adventure. "
9 " There was stardust in her bones. "
10 " He didn’t respect or even understand that other people had boundaries and only bullies pushed through them. "
11 " Didn’t he know that she was playing him? The funny thing was that they almost never, ever did. And even after they figured it out, they doubted themselves. Wanted to believe they were wrong. Even when there was no denying that they’d been had, you could almost always go back for a second helping. "
12 " This is your home,” her mother said. “Wherever I am, that’s where you belong. "
13 " She understood now, how you turned away until you couldn't. Until the pain of knowing and doing nothing was greater than the fear of what might come next. "
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15 " But that was the world now, everyone in their little silo, broadcasting versions of their lives from a screen, onto the screens of others. "
16 " Sometimes a stranger was the safest place in your life. "
17 " The room was filled with the electricity of mistakes about to be made. "
18 " Pull yourself together, Selena, she chided. Fix this. End this. Write a better headline. "
19 " But his efforts were fractional compared to hers; and her praise was equal in measure to the encouragement she doled out to the children for their drawings that showed little talent, their stilted piano playing, or middling efforts on the soccer field. Not lies, exactly. "
20 " Selena loved the liminal spaces. Those precious slivers of time between the roles she played in life. "