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The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships QUOTES

The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships QUOTES

1 " Connected sex is a spiritual experience….It is spiritual because it’s a release from ego, a merging with the other, a discorporation into the atoms vibrating around us, a connection to the universal energy that moves through all things without judgment or prejudice.
Thus, orgasm is the one spiritual practice that unites nearly everyone on the planet, and perhaps that is why there’s so much fear and baggage around it. Because…it is sacred.
And every orgasm. Is in itself an act of faith. An attempt to reach out. And just for a moment. Relieve our separateness. Escape from time. And touch eternity. "

― Neil Strauss , The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships

2 " …each woman is a wonderful world unto herself. And monogamy? It’s like choosing to live in a single town and never traveling to experience the beauty, history, and enchantment of all the other unique, wonderful places in the world. Why does love have to limit us?
Perhaps it doesn’t. Only fear is restrictive. Love is expansive. And I wonder, since fear of enmeshment impels us to avoid commitment and fear of abandonment makes us possessive, what type of evolved relationship can emerge once those wounds are healed? "

― Neil Strauss , The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships

3 " Many women think that if they put out too quickly, their partner won't respect them. This is not the case. It's not about waiting for a certain quantity of time before having sex, it's about waiting for a certain quality of connection. "

― Neil Strauss , The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships

4 " The women you've slept with, the ones you never did but primed for a future encounter, the ones who seemed interested but then suddenly stopped texting: Unless you do something horribly wrong, they never completely disappear. A lonely night, a cheating boyfriend, a sudden breakup, an attack of low self-esteem, an attack of high self-esteem—anything can, out of the blue, send them scrolling through their address book looking for validation, for security, for conversation, for adoration, for the fantasy of you filling some empty space in her life. "

― Neil Strauss , The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships

5 " They say that a man is as faithful as his options, and in this moment I know it to be true. So I switched the phone off. It's too much. Even Jesus only had three temptations. "

― Neil Strauss , The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships

6 " Love is when two (or more) hearts build a safe emotional, mental, and spiritual home that will stand strong no matter how much anyone changes on the inside or the outside. It demands only one things and expects only one thing: that each person be his or her own true self. "

― Neil Strauss , The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships

7 " Life is a learned skill, but instead of teaching it, our culture force-fills developing minds with long division and capital cities—until, at the end of the mandatory period of bondage that’s hyperbolically called school, we’re sent into the world knowing little about it. And so, left on our own to figure out the most important parts of life, we make mistakes for years until, by the time we’ve learned enough from our stumbling to be effective human beings, it’s time for us to die. "

― Neil Strauss , The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships

8 " Most people seem to believe that if a relationship doesn't last until death, it's a failure. But the only relationship that's truly a failure is one that lasts longe than it should. The success of a relationship should be measured by it's depth, not by it's lenght. "

― Neil Strauss , The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships

9 " Lying is about controlling someone else’s reality, hoping that what they don’t know won’t hurt you. "

― Neil Strauss , The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships

10 " A healthy relationship is when two individuated adults decide to have a relationship and that becomes a third entity. They nurture the relationship and the relationship nurtures them. But they’re not overly dependent or independent: They are interdependent, which means that they take care of the majority of their needs and wants on their own, but when they can’t, they’re not afraid to ask their partner for help.” She pauses to let it all sink in, then concludes, “Only when our love for someone exceeds our need for them do we have a shot at a genuine relationship together. "

― Neil Strauss , The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships

11 " Because, all too often, the things that we're the most resistant to are precisely what we need. And the things we're most scared to let go of are exactly the ones we most need to relinquish. "

― Neil Strauss , The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships

12 " The sins of the parents are the destinies of their children. Unless the children wake up and do something about it. "

― Neil Strauss , The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships

13 " In this life, we don't meet many people who truly love us, who accept us for who we are, who put us before themselves. "

― Neil Strauss , The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships

14 " In the dance of infatuation, we see others not as they are, but as projections of who we want them to be. And we impose on them all the imaginary criteria we think will fill the void in our hearts. "

― Neil Strauss , The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships

15 " Then again, no matter what your point of view may be, you can always find someone with a Ph.D to support it. "

― Neil Strauss , The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships

16 " They say that love is blind, but it’s trauma that’s blind. Love sees what is. "

― Neil Strauss , The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships

17 " I used to think that a good relationship meant always getting along. But the secret, I realize, is that when one person shuts down or throws a fit, the other needs to stay in the adult ego state. If both people descend to the wounded child or adapted adolescent, that's when all forces of relationship drama and destruction are unleashed. "

― Neil Strauss , The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships

18 " Intimacy is sharing your reality with someone else and knowing you’re safe, and them being able to share their reality with you and also be safe. "

― Neil Strauss , The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships

19 " The person who is too smart to love is truly an idiot. "

― Neil Strauss , The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships

20 " used to think that intelligence came from books and knowledge and rational thought. But that’s not intelligence: It’s just information and interpretation. Real intelligence is when your mind and your heart connect. That’s when you see the truth so clearly and unmistakably that you don’t have to think about it. In fact, all thinking will do is lead you away from the truth and soon you’ll be back in your head, groping with a penlight in the dark again. "

― Neil Strauss , The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships