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Ongoingness: The End of a Diary QUOTES

1 " Today was very full, but the problem isn't today. It's tomorrow. I'd be able to recover from today if it weren't for tomorrow. There should be extra days, buffer days, between real days. "

― Sarah Manguso , Ongoingness: The End of a Diary

2 " My students still don't know what they will never be. Their hope is so bright I can almost see it.

I used to value the truth of whether this student or that one would achieve the desired thing. I don't value that truth anymore as much as I value their untested hope. I don't care that one in two hundred of them will ever become what they feel they must become. I care only that I am able to witness their faith in what's coming next.

I no longer believe in anything other than the middle, but my students still believe in beginnings. Ask them, and they will tell you that everything is about to start in just a moment, just one more moment. "

― Sarah Manguso , Ongoingness: The End of a Diary

3 " I used to be twenty. Then I was twenty-one, twenty-two, and so on. And then I became a mother and could no longer even distinguish the difference between twenty-one and twenty-two or the difference between thirty-eight and thirty-nine. "

― Sarah Manguso , Ongoingness: The End of a Diary

4 " Time punishes us by taking everything, but it also saves us — by taking everything. "

― Sarah Manguso , Ongoingness: The End of a Diary

5 " It was a failure of my imagination that made me keep leaving people. All I could see in the world were beginnings and endings: moments to survive, record, and, once recorded, safely forget. I knew I was getting somewhere when I began losing interest in the beginnings and the ends of things. Short tragic love stories that had once interested me no longer did. What interested me was the kind of love to which the person dedicates herself for so long, she no longer remembers quite how it began. "

― Sarah Manguso , Ongoingness: The End of a Diary

6 " Perhaps all anxiety might derive from a fixation on moments—an inability to accept life as ongoing. "

― Sarah Manguso , Ongoingness: The End of a Diary

7 " When I was twenty-three I began seeing a psychotherapist because I couldn’t bear the idea that, after the end of an affair, all our shared memories might be expunged from the mind of the other, that they might no longer exist outside my own belief they’d happened. I couldn’t accept the possibility of being the only one who would remember everything about those moments as carefully as I tried to remember them. My life, which exists mostly in the memories of the people I’ve known, is deteriorating at the rate of physiological decay. A color, a sensation, the way someone said a single word—soon it will all be gone. In a hundred and fifty years no one alive will ever have known me. Being forgotten like that, entering that great and ongoing blank, seems more like death than death. "

― Sarah Manguso , Ongoingness: The End of a Diary

8 " Living in a dream of the future is considered a character flaw. Living in the past, bathed in nostalgia, is also considered a character flaw. Living in the present moment is hailed as spiritually admirable, but truly ignoring the lessons of history or failing to plan for tomorrow are considered character flaws ... I wanted to know how to inhabit time in a way that wasn't a character flaw. "

― Sarah Manguso , Ongoingness: The End of a Diary

9 " And then I think I don't need to write anything down ever again. Nothing's gone, not really. Everything that's ever happened has left its little wound. "

― Sarah Manguso , Ongoingness: The End of a Diary

10 " I wanted to remember what I could bear to remember and convince myself it was all there was. "

― Sarah Manguso , Ongoingness: The End of a Diary

11 " When I’m back with my own memories I drink a glass of wine or a cup of coffee. It helps soften their pressure, but the effect fades. Then I think I should practice grace for what I’ve been given to remember, but whatever I do, I can’t seem to forget what I want to forget. And then I think I don’t need to write anything down ever again. Nothing’s gone, not really. Everything that’s ever happened has left its little wound. ♦ "

― Sarah Manguso , Ongoingness: The End of a Diary

12 " In a hundred and fifty years no one alive will ever have known me. Being forgotten like that, entering that great and ongoing blank, seems more like death than death. ♦ "

― Sarah Manguso , Ongoingness: The End of a Diary

13 " The memory and maybe the fact of every kiss start disappearing the moment the two mouths part. "

― Sarah Manguso , Ongoingness: The End of a Diary

14 " To write a diary is to make a series of choices about what to omit, what to forget. "

― Sarah Manguso , Ongoingness: The End of a Diary

15 " I reread my favorite books to make sure they're still perfect, but rereading them wears away at their perfection. "

― Sarah Manguso , Ongoingness: The End of a Diary

16 " Being forgotten like that, entering that great and ongoing blank, seems more like death than death. "

― Sarah Manguso , Ongoingness: The End of a Diary

17 " Maybe the trouble is that the shape of life is elastic, that it can feel and be full at variable levels of fullness. Or maybe we’re poor judges of our own lives’ fullness. Or maybe the concepts of emptiness and fullness are poor metaphors for happiness, if in fact happiness is what we’re talking about. ♦ "

― Sarah Manguso , Ongoingness: The End of a Diary

18 " I knew I couldn't replicate my whole life in language. "

― Sarah Manguso , Ongoingness: The End of a Diary

19 " the wild velocity of motherhood, an enforced momentum forbidding contemplation. "

― Sarah Manguso , Ongoingness: The End of a Diary

20 " The trouble was that I failed to record so much , I wrote, but how could I have believed that if I tried hard enough, I could remember everything? "

― Sarah Manguso , Ongoingness: The End of a Diary