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101 " If the main reason you want to win that marathon is to feel good about yourself, what happens to your love of running in and of itself? Instead of doing it because you enjoy it, you start doing it to get the reward of high self-esteem. Which means you’re more likely to give up if you stop winning races. "
― Kristin Neff , Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself
102 " So what’s the answer? To stop judging and evaluating ourselves altogether. To stop trying to label ourselves as “good” or “bad” and simply accept ourselves with an open heart. "
103 " As Tara Brach (author of Radical Acceptance) writes: “Feeling unworthy goes hand in hand with feeling separate from others, separate from life. If we are defective, how can we possibly belong? It seems like a vicious cycle: the more deficient we feel, the more separate and vulnerable we feel. "
104 " Public speaking anxiety, the number one phobia experienced in our culture, is also caused by fear of rejection and isolation. Why does the instruction to imagine your audience in their underwear work? Because it reminds you that the audience is vulnerable and imperfect too, and the image boosts your sense of shared humanity. "
105 " Compassion toward others is really a gift for ourselves, because it nourishes us with benevolent feelings and allows us to feel more secure by recognizing our inherent interconnectedness. With the equanimity of an open heart, the slings and arrows of our difficult and frustrating lives find less purchase, and suffering becomes a doorway into love. "
106 " We can reframe our situation in light of our shared humanity, so that we don’t feel so isolated by adversity. Not only am I suffering, I am aware that I am suffering, and therefore I can try to do something about it. "
107 " How Self-Compassionate Are You?” link. After "
108 " «No juegues a hacerte la interesante con un hombre difícil de conseguir.» "
109 " If you’re able to comfort yourself every time something painful happens, staying centered and not running away with reactivity, you can start to trust yourself. You can more easily find inner courage when hard times hit, knowing that you can get through almost anything with the help of your own compassionate support. "
110 " The problem is that by definition, it’s impossible for everyone to be above average at the same time. "
111 " Emotional Alchemy: How the Mind Can Heal the Heart, Tara Bennett-Goleman "
112 " The problem, however, is that if you try to eliminate the negative, it’s going to backfire. Mental or emotional resistance to pain merely exacerbates suffering (remember, Suffering = Pain x Resistance). Our subconscious registers any attempt at avoidance or suppression, so that what we’re trying to avoid ends up being amplified "
113 " 如果我必須覺得比你強，才能自我感覺良好，那麼，我又能把你或自己看得多清楚呢？ "
114 " La curiosa paradoja es que cuando me acepto tal como soy, entonces puedo cambiar. CARL ROGERS, El proceso de convertirse en persona "
115 " Compassion toward others is really a gift for ourselves, because it nourishes us with benevolent feelings and allows us to feel more secure by recognizing our inherent interconnectedness. "
116 " Unsurprisingly, research shows that individuals who grow up with highly critical parents in childhood are much more likely to be critical toward themselves as adults. "
117 " For only as we ourselves, as adults, actually move and have our being in the state of love, can we be appropriate models and guides for our children. What we are teaches the child far more than what we say, so we must be what we want our children to become. —JOSEPH CHILTON PEARCE, INTRODUCTION TO Teaching Children to Love BY DOC LEW CHILDRE "
118 " Consider the full range of traits listed above. Can you accept all these facets of yourself? Being human does not mean being better than others. Being human means you encompass the full range of human experience, the positive, the negative, and the neutral. Being human means you are average in many ways. Can you celebrate the experience of being alive on this planet in all your complexity "
119 " self-compassion involves wanting health and well-being for oneself and leads to proactive behavior to better one’s situation, rather than passivity. And self-compassion doesn’t mean that I think my problems are more important than yours, it just means I think that my problems are also important and worthy of being attended to. "
120 " «Tener la conciencia limpia es señal de mala memoria»). "
