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1 " The imagined memories had to have as much weight as the real, or we had to at least pretend they did to such a degree that they just very well might have. And so I never questioned Angela about that particular story, or about all the troubling things that it pointed to, content to believe that at least in this version things worked for her better than they did in the one I never heard. "
― Dinaw Mengestu , How to Read the Air
2 " We persist and linger longer than we think, leaving traces of ourselves wherever we go. If you take that away, then we all simply vanish. "
3 " In fact, there is nothing so easily remade as our definitions of ourselves. "
4 " We would meet outside the same wine bar we had gone to on our first date, and from there we would wander through the city for five or six hours since neither one of us had a private place that we could retreat to. Walking out in the open for so long only helped to draw us closer. There was too much space on the avenues, and the side streets were often too crowded with people and cabs hurrying to cut across town. To counter that we held each other's hands and arms, ribs and waists. "
5 " There is nothing so easily remade as our definitions of ourselves. "
6 " My mother could never have said she loved fall, but as she walked down the steps with her suitcase in hand toward the red Monte Carlo her husband had been waiting in for nearly an hour, she could have said that she respected its place as a mediator between two extremes. Fall came and went, while winter was endured and summer was revered. Fall was the repose that made both possible and bearable, and now here she was was with her husband next to her, heading headlong into an early-fall afternoon with only the vaguest ideas of who they were becoming and what came next. "
7 " The world around us is alive, he would have said, with our emotions and thoughts, and the space between any two people are charged with them all. He had learned early in his life that before any violent gesture there is a moment when the act is born, not as something that can be seen or felt, but by the change it precipitates in the air. "
8 " Ghosts are common to the life of any child:mine just happened to come to dinner more often than most "
9 " You will never disappear," I said. "Even if it may feel like you have at some point. We're going to remain a part of each other's lives for much longer than we think. There's nothing we can say or do to change that. "
10 " She always thought Americans were too territorial. 'All those fences and flags,' she had once said, seeing very little difference between the two. "
11 " At night my father often heard sporadic gunfire mixed in with the sound of dogs howling. If the war came closer, soon there would be only minor difference between shooting a dog and shooting a man. "
12 " If the last thing a man has to hold on to is his sense of pride and accompanying dignity, then more likely than not he will expend every last trace of energy doing so. "
13 " In our rush to presumably better ourselves we had both missed what had otherwise always been obvious—that it often didn’t take much more than careful consideration of each other’s needs to secure a degree of happiness. "
14 " Perhaps she thought, this was the way everything in America actually was- all smoke and mirrors, with only illusions of grandeur. "