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21 " Just because you can live without someone doesn't mean you want to. "
― Taylor Jenkins Reid , After I Do
22 " You don’t own Ryan. You brought him into this family, and you asked us to love him. And we do. And you can’t control that. "
23 " Sometimes you want to forget the fact that you’re alone, and instead, you want to relish the feeling that someone understands you, someone is fighting the same battle that you are. Also, you know, sometimes you just want to feel wanted and desired. Sometimes you want to feel what it feels like with someone new. Sometimes you forget about whether you’re ready to do something, and you just let yourself do it. "
24 " You have that someone. That’s all I’ve been trying to say. Don’t give up on him just because he bores you. Or doesn’t pick up his socks. "
25 " Maybe I need the truth more than I need to hear what I want to hear. Maybe there is almost never a time when you don't need the truth. Or maybe it's just that you need the truth the most at times you think you don't want to hear it. "
26 " He is next to me but not beside me. We are both in this bed, but we are not sharing it. "
27 " I've come to realize that resentment is malignant. That it starts small and festers. That it grows wild and unfettered inside of you until it's so expansive that it has worked its way into the furthest, deepest parts of you and holds on for dear life. "
28 " I know that I can do this without you. I’ve learned that this past year. But I just miss you right now. I just want you near me. You bring out the best in me. And I could use the best of me right now. "
29 " Laughing and crying are so intrinsically tied together, spun of the same material, that it's hard to tell one from the other sometimes. "
30 " Sometimes you should just take the potatoes and say thank you and then throw them in the trash when Mom’s not looking. "
31 " There is no failing or winning or losing, she says. This is life Lauren. This is love and marriage. If you stay married for a number of years and you have a happy time together and then you decide you don't want to be married anymore and you choose to go be happy with someone else or doing something else, that's not failure. That's just life. That's just how love is. How is that failure? "
32 " Look at the things we are capable of in the name of the people we love. "
33 " And it was because I knew that on your birthday, I was the one who made the day worthwhile. It made me feel like I mattered. It made me feel like I was doing something right. "
34 " Isn’t it nice,” he says, “once you’ve outgrown the ideas of what life should be and you just enjoy what it is? "
35 " Sometimes people do things because they are furious or because they are upset or because they are out for blood. And those things can hurt. But what hurts the most is when someone does something out of apathy. They don’t care about you the way they said they did back in college. They don’t care about you the way they promised to when you got married. They don’t care about you at all. "
36 " When you don’t have anyone to witness how dirty you are, you find out how truly dirty you are willing to be. "
37 " I think I’m like looking at the back of a cereal box for you. I’m just something you sit and stare at because I’m there. "
38 " Marriage is about commitment. It’s about loyalty. It’s not about happiness. Happiness is secondary. And ultimately, marriage is about children.” She gives me a knowing look. “If you had a baby, no matter how unhappy you were together, you’d have stayed together. Children bind you. They connect you. That’s what marriage is about. "
39 " You had flirted with other men and he’d seen it, or he had flirted with other women and you’d seen it, if you had spent a few weekends apart from each other sometimes, given each other some space now and again, maybe you wouldn’t need a whole year apart now. That’s all I’m saying. "
40 " How can you miss someone so much already? My mind is full of all the things I didn’t say. It doesn’t matter how much I did say. There was still so much left to say. I want to tell her that I love her. That I will always remember her. That I am happy for her. That I believe she will find Grandpa. "