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Telling Lies: Clues to Deceit in the Marketplace, Politics, and Marriage QUOTES

Telling Lies: Clues to Deceit in the Marketplace, Politics, and Marriage QUOTES

1 " Вне зависимости от того, собираются русские плутовать (относительно ядерного оружия) или нет, они всегда пытаются создать впечатление полной честности. Ведь и честный человек и лжец всегда ответят утвердительно на вопрос, собираются ли они говорить правду. "

― Paul Ekman , Telling Lies: Clues to Deceit in the Marketplace, Politics, and Marriage

2 " No important relationship survives if trust is totally lost. "

― Paul Ekman , Telling Lies: Clues to Deceit in the Marketplace, Politics, and Marriage

3 " the unhappy person is expected to conceal negative feelings, putting on a polite smile to accompany the “Just fine, thank you, and how are you?” reply to the “How are you today?” The true feelings will probably go undetected, not because the smile is such a good mask but because in polite exchanges people rarely care how the other person actually feels. "

― Paul Ekman , Telling Lies: Clues to Deceit in the Marketplace, Politics, and Marriage

4 " Smiles are probably the most underrated facial expressions, much more complicated than most people realize. There are dozens of smiles, each differing in appearance and in the message expressed. "

― Paul Ekman , Telling Lies: Clues to Deceit in the Marketplace, Politics, and Marriage

5 " A broken promise is not a lie. "

― Paul Ekman , Telling Lies: Clues to Deceit in the Marketplace, Politics, and Marriage

6 " People also smile when they are miserable. "

― Paul Ekman , Telling Lies: Clues to Deceit in the Marketplace, Politics, and Marriage

7 " Believing-a-lie mistakes occur because certain people just don’t make mistakes when they lie. These are not just psychopaths but also natural liars, people who are using the Stanislavski technique, and those who by other means succeed in coming to believe their own lies. The lie catcher must remember that the absence of a sign of deceit is not evidence of truth. "

― Paul Ekman , Telling Lies: Clues to Deceit in the Marketplace, Politics, and Marriage

8 " Remember that the polygraph test is not a lie detector. It only detects emotional arousal. "

― Paul Ekman , Telling Lies: Clues to Deceit in the Marketplace, Politics, and Marriage

9 " It is easy to conceal an emotion no longer felt, much harder to conceal an emotion felt at the moment, especially if the feeling is strong. Terror is harder to conceal than worry, just as rage is harder to conceal than annoyance. The stronger the emotion, the more likely it is that some sign of it will leak despite the liar's best attempt to conceal it. "

― Paul Ekman , Telling Lies: Clues to Deceit in the Marketplace, Politics, and Marriage

10 " In modern industrial societies the situation is nearly the reverse. The opportunities for lying are plentiful; privacy is easy to achieve, there are many closed doors. When caught, the social consequences need not be disastrous, for one can change jobs, change spouses, change villages. A damaged reputation need not follow you. By this reasoning we live now in circumstances that encourage rather than discourage lying; evidence and activity are more easily concealed, and the need to rely upon demeanor to make our judgments is greater. And we have not been prepared by our evolutionary history to be very sensitive to the behavioral clues relevant to lying. "

― Paul Ekman , Telling Lies: Clues to Deceit in the Marketplace, Politics, and Marriage

11 " 3. When the behavior changes occur in relation to a specific topic or question, that tells the lie catcher this could be a hot area to explore. "

― Paul Ekman , Telling Lies: Clues to Deceit in the Marketplace, Politics, and Marriage

12 " MOST LIES succeed because no one goes through the work to figure out how to catch them. "

― Paul Ekman , Telling Lies: Clues to Deceit in the Marketplace, Politics, and Marriage

13 " This distinction between believing-a-lie and disbelieving-the-truth is important because it forces attention to the twin dangers for the lie catcher. There is no way to avoid completely both mistakes; the choice only is between which one to risk more. The lie catcher must evaluate when it is preferable to risk being misled, and when it would be better to risk making a false accusation. "

― Paul Ekman , Telling Lies: Clues to Deceit in the Marketplace, Politics, and Marriage

14 " The failure to remember is not a lie, although liars will often try to excuse their lies, once discovered, by claiming a memory failure. It is not uncommon to forget actions that one regrets, but if the forgetting truly has occurred, we should not consider that a lie. for there was no choice involved. Often it will not be possible to determine whether a memory failure has occurred or whether its invocation is itself a lie. "

― Paul Ekman , Telling Lies: Clues to Deceit in the Marketplace, Politics, and Marriage

15 " People do misinterpret events, especially the meaning of other people’s actions and the motives that lead people to act one way or another. "

― Paul Ekman , Telling Lies: Clues to Deceit in the Marketplace, Politics, and Marriage

16 " Not everyone is able to lie or is willing to do so. "

― Paul Ekman , Telling Lies: Clues to Deceit in the Marketplace, Politics, and Marriage

17 " Suspicious people should be terrible lie catchers, prone to disbelieving-the-truth "

― Paul Ekman , Telling Lies: Clues to Deceit in the Marketplace, Politics, and Marriage

18 " can you tell when a politician is lying? When he moves his lips! "

― Paul Ekman , Telling Lies: Clues to Deceit in the Marketplace, Politics, and Marriage

19 " Lying is such a central characteristic of life that better understanding of it is relevant to almost all human affairs. "

― Paul Ekman , Telling Lies: Clues to Deceit in the Marketplace, Politics, and Marriage

20 " It is hard not to reciprocate a smile; people do so even if the smile they reciprocate is one shown in a photograph. People enjoy looking at most smiles, a fact well known to advertisers. "

― Paul Ekman , Telling Lies: Clues to Deceit in the Marketplace, Politics, and Marriage