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21 " Like a Chinese finger puzzle made of woven straw, finding relief requires us to relax rather than pull in order to gain release. "
― Laurie Nadel , The Five Gifts: Discovering Hope, Healing and Strength When Disaster Strikes
22 " There is no “new normal” because becoming habituated to severe pain is neither “normal” nor healthy. "
23 " Moving forward requires us to reframe our basic assumptions about life. Moving forward” does not mean that we heal in a linear, sequential way. "
24 " Just as we do physiologically, emotional toxicity is best released daily. We have to regularly release old feelings and disturbing thoughts that are holding us back.” --Dr. Anne Redelfs "
25 " What is important is remembering that we are here on this planet to surrender, have patience, and allow ourselves to love and be loved. Crises help us to learn these things.”--Lynn Robinson "
26 " Rebuilding emotional safety while remaining physically present in an environment that once proved destructive and continues to be potentially dangerous is a complex process that takes time––and the second gift of patience. "
27 " I get a kick out of people who talk like it only happened to them,” says lawyer Denis Kelly. “I wonder, ‘Didn’t you notice that everybody else is going through it? "
28 " Focus on what you have instead of what you don’t have. It’s a gorgeous day. I live in the United States of America. I have freedom. I can go to work. Nothing lasts and this, too, will pass.” -- Chellie Campbell "
29 " The gift of empathy opens us up when the tendency to shut down and turn away from the world is often at its greatest. "
30 " Mother Earth is always giving, even if it’s a lesson. She is always giving.” –Tiokasin Ghosthorse "
31 " Whatever the circumstance, there are seeds of meaning, even to our very last breath. "
32 " Getting angry because you cannot will yourself to push through it at your old pace will sabotage the pace of healing. Patience gives you the grace to slow down and let your soul catch up in its own time and in its own way. "
33 " God never closes a door without opening a window. But we have to look for it.” – Sarah Mahoney "
34 " There is a price for forgetting and remembering. Forgetting as a form of escape deprives us of what the Five Gifts can offer––humility, patience, empathy, forgiveness, and growth. "
35 " When someone we know is hurting, it’s our instinct to want them to get better––first, for themselves, and also because our inability to assist leaves us feeling helpless. "
36 " It is our American tradition to come together in times of tragedy. This is how we grow as a people and as a nation. "
37 " We need to find the humility to admit that we are indeed powerless and helpless so we can take the first steps in finding ways to heal. – Dr. Thomas Demaria "
38 " Although we have had significant losses, we did not lose our most important things: our health, our children, and those we love. "
39 " Getting up and putting on your shoes after a disaster is a badge of honor.” -- Dr. Thomas Demaria "
40 " True healing is when you somehow transform the nature of how you perceive what you have gone through.” -- Dr. Thomas Demaria "