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81 " You need to know what you don’t want and what your choices preclude. "
― Ryan Holiday , Ego Is the Enemy
82 " is the sense of our own path and how to stay on it without getting distracted by all the others that intersect it. In other words, it’s not about beating the other guy. It’s not about having more than the others. It’s about being what you are, and being as good as possible at it, without succumbing to all the things that draw you away from it. "
83 " accomplishing the most that you’re capable of in what you choose. "
84 " Be slow in deliberation, but be prompt to carry out your resolves – Demonicus "
85 " It means accepting that others might be more qualified or specialized in areas in which you considered yourself competent—or at least their time is better spent on them than yours. "
86 " Every project and goal deserves an approach fitted perfectly to what needs to be done. "
87 " That uncomfortable feeling, that defensiveness that you feel when your most deeply held assumptions are challenged—what about subjecting yourself to it deliberately? Change your mind. Change your surroundings. "
88 " Pride takes a minor accomplishment and makes it feel like a major one. From the start, it drives a wedge between the possessor and reality, subtly and not so subtly changing her perceptions of what something is and what it isn't. It is these steering opinions, only loosely secured by fact or accomplishment, that send us careering toward delusion or worse. "
89 " The first product of self-knowledge is humility," Flannery O'Connor once said. This is how we fight the ego, by really knowing ourselves. "
90 " Is it ten thousand hours or twenty thousand hours to mastery? The answer is that it doesn't matter. There is no end zone. To think of a number is to live in a conditional future. We're simply talking about a lot of hours - that to get where we want to go isn't about brilliance, but continual effort. It means it's all within reach - for all of us, provided we have the constitution and humbleness to be patient and the fortitude to put in the work. "
91 " Practice self control. Abhor flatterers as you would deceivers; for both, if trusted, injure those who trust them. "
92 " Napoleon had the words “To Destiny!” engraved on the wedding ring he gave his wife. Destiny was what he’d always believed in, it was how he justified his boldest, most ambitious ideas. "
93 " Let’s be clear: competitiveness is an important force in life. It’s what drives the market and is behind some of mankind’s most impressive accomplishments. On an individual level, however, it’s absolutely critical that you know who you’re competing with and why, that you have a clear sense of the space you’re in. "
94 " Only you know the race you’re running. "
95 " Bill Walsh says, “Almost always, your road to victory goes through a place called ‘failure. "
96 " You will be unappreciated. You will be sabotaged. You will experience surprising failures. Your expectations will not be met. You will lose. You will fail. How do you carry on then? How do you take pride in yourself and your work? John Wooden’s advice to his players says it: Change the definition of success. “Success is peace of mind, which is a direct result of self-satisfaction in knowing you made the effort to do your best to become the best that you are capable of becoming. "
97 " We’re all full of anxieties, doubts, impotence, pains, and sometimes a little tinge of crazy. "
98 " Receive feedback, maintain hunger, and chart a proper course in life. "
99 " I am going to be myself, the best version of that self. I am in this for the long game, no matter how brutal it might be. "
100 " we’re the only ones who can evaluate and set the terms of our lives. Far too often, we look at other people and make their approval the standard we feel compelled to meet, and as a result, squander our very potential and purpose. "