Home > Work > Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart: Thirty True Things You Need to Know Now

Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart: Thirty True Things You Need to Know Now QUOTES

Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart: Thirty True Things You Need to Know Now QUOTES

1 " The perfect is the enemy of the good. "

― , Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart: Thirty True Things You Need to Know Now

2 " When all is said and done, more is said than done. "

― , Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart: Thirty True Things You Need to Know Now

3 " If the map doesn't agree with the ground the map is wrong "

― , Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart: Thirty True Things You Need to Know Now

4 " It is our determination to overcome fear and discouragement that constitutes the only effective antidote to the sense of powerlessness over unwanted feelings. "

― , Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart: Thirty True Things You Need to Know Now

5 " The three components of happiness are something to do, someone to love, and something to look forward to. "

― , Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart: Thirty True Things You Need to Know Now

6 " Our common future will be determined by the struggle between the killers and the peacemakers. "

― , Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart: Thirty True Things You Need to Know Now

7 " This is the map we wish to construct in our heads: a reliable guide that allows us to avoid those who are not worthy of our time and trust and to embrace those who are. The best indications that our always-tentative maps are faulty include feelings of sadness, anger, betrayal, surprise, and disorientation. "

― , Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart: Thirty True Things You Need to Know Now

8 " Our feelings depend mainly on our interpretation of what is happening to us and around us—our attitudes. It is not so much what occurs, but how we define events and respond that determines how we feel. The thing that characterizes those who struggle emotionally is that they have lost, or believe they have lost, their ability to choose those behaviors that will make them happy. "

― , Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart: Thirty True Things You Need to Know Now

9 " We are responsible for most of what happens to us. "

― , Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart: Thirty True Things You Need to Know Now

10 " The love between parents and children depends heavily on forgiveness. It is our imperfections that mark us as human and our willingness to tolerate them in our families and ourselves redeems the suffering to which all love makes us vulnerable. In happy moments such as this we celebrate the miracle of two people who found each other and created new lives together. If love can indeed overcome death, it is only through the exercise of memory and devotion. Memory and devotion . . . with it your heart, though broken, will be full and you will stay in the fight to the "

― , Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart: Thirty True Things You Need to Know Now

11 " The primary goal of parenting, beyond keeping our children safe and loved, is to convey to them a sense that it is possible to be happy in an uncertain world, to give them hope. We do this, of course, by example more than by anything we say to them. If we can demonstrate in our own lives qualities of commitment, determination, and optimism, then we have done our job and can use our books of child-rearing advice for doorstops or fireplace fuel. What we cannot do is expect that children who are constantly criticized, bullied, and lectured will think well of themselves and their futures. "

― , Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart: Thirty True Things You Need to Know Now

12 " life consists of an effort to get the maps in our heads to conform to the ground on which we walk. "

― , Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart: Thirty True Things You Need to Know Now

13 " We are not what we think, or what we say, or how we feel. We are what we do. "

― , Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart: Thirty True Things You Need to Know Now

14 " illuminated where I stood so I could better see myself and the world around me, and then he took that light and held it out so I could see the footholds and ledges I would need to reclaim a productive life. "

― , Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart: Thirty True Things You Need to Know Now

15 " Most of the heartbreak that life contains is a result of ignoring the reality that past behavior is the most reliable predictor of future behavior. "

― , Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart: Thirty True Things You Need to Know Now

16 " The psychiatric profession has taken the trouble to categorize personality
disorders. I often think that this section of the diagnostic manual ought to be titled “People to avoid.” The many labels contained herein—histrionic,
narcissistic, dependent, borderline, and so on—form a catalogue of unpleasant persons: suspicious, selfish, unpredictable, exploitative. These are the people your mother warned you about. (Unfortunately, sometimes they are your mother.) "

― , Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart: Thirty True Things You Need to Know Now

17 " Many of us are afraid of risk and prefer the bland, the predictable, and the repetitive. This explains the overwhelming sense of boredom that is a defining characteristic of our age. "

― , Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart: Thirty True Things You Need to Know Now

18 " The stories of our lives, far from being fixed narratives, are under constant revision. The slender threads of causality are rewoven and reinterpreted as we attempt to explain to ourselves and others how we became the people we are. "

― , Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart: Thirty True Things You Need to Know Now

19 " everything in life is a good news/bad news story. "

― , Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart: Thirty True Things You Need to Know Now

20 " The good news is that we have effective treatments for the symptoms of depression; the bad news is that medication will not make you happy. Happiness is not simply the absence of despair. It is an affirmative state in which our lives have both meaning and pleasure. "

― , Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart: Thirty True Things You Need to Know Now