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Dead Blondes and Bad Mothers QUOTES

Dead Blondes and Bad Mothers QUOTES

1 " Yet it is hard to deny the obvious conclusion here: heterosexual marriage, despite the cosmetic improvements we've made to it over the years, is still an institution set up to benefit men at women's expense. Women are told their whole lives, that marriage has gone from a means of subjugation to a romantic adventure; a five-star resort built in an abandoned prison. But when they arrive, there are still locks on the doors. The cells still have bars. Our attitudes have shifted, our expectations have shifted, but the institution itself remains largely unchanged. It would be crazy not to feel some frustration. "

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2 " Female monstrosity inspires terror because it really can end the world—or our current version of it, anyway. But our world is not the only one, or the best one, and in fact, the more time I spend with monsters, the more I think its destruction is overdue. "

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3 " [...] ora le donne non possono più fermarsi. Ci riprenderemo il mondo, i nostri corpi e tutte le possibilità che ci sono state negate. Quando apriremo bocca, i nostri oppressori dovranno tacere e, quando cammineremo, la terra tremerà. "

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4 " Women are defined from the outside, in terms of how they seem to men, rather than from the inside, as thinking, feeling subjects. They are not fellow people, not even a different or worse variety of person, but simply the opposite of men, and hence, the opposite of human. "

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5 " We would rather see girls stopped dead—stuck in a constant childhood that never decays—than let them grow into women who can pursue their desires. "

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6 " The ultimate violence patriarchy does to women is to make us believe we deserve what has been done to us—a loop forever closing, breaking us so that we will raise broken women. "

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7 " But if the Final Girl is an exception to the female rule, she can’t be our avatar. Most of us, by definition, are not exceptional. It’s when we shift out focus to the margins, and all the non-Final, ordinary, disposable girls who are stripped and splayed and stabbed and ripped apart, that the next part of our story becomes clear. "

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8 " It seems highly unlikely that any mother operating within patriarchy has not received sufficiently stressful messaging about her “duties.” But the bad mother is patriarchy’s saving throw, its ultimate loophole; by moving the blame for male violence back one generation, it makes guilty parties out of the women who are its victims. "

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9 " If you want to understand our sexual state of play, start with the fact that a man who kills half a hundred female sex workers is shown more mercy than a female sex worker who defends herself against seven men. "

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10 " We can only do this by facing our demons; by acknowledging the presence of those rebellious, dangerous women under the surface, who cry out for some justice or some vengeance or at least some acknowledgement of all they’ve lost. We have to walk out into the woods and become familiar with the dark things that live there. But when we walk back into the daylight, we will know things others don’t know. We will be able to do things others can’t do. We can use our exclusion, our rage, and even our trauma as a way of seeing more deeply into the world. "

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11 " We say that a mother is someone who “gives life.” We don’t me think that the life she’ll be giving is her own. "

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12 " It’s rare for the patriarchy to show its hand this clearly, but there you go; guilt, not joy, kept Mama in place. Women had to be confined to childbearing and child-rearing, but they also had to believe there was something wrong with them if they didn’t enjoy it. "

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13 " We can find powerful and awe-inspiring visions of ourselves, hidden inside and underneath the stories patriarchy tells to shame us. "

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14 " Once a woman is free to desire and pursue her own desires, she moves beyond the reach of our empathy; she's a threat that must be contained or destroyed. "

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15 " In Occidente sono sempre stati gli uomini bianchi a raccontare le nostre storie, a scrivere le nostre leggi, ad attribuire i nostri significati, ad avere il dominio sulle arti e sulle accademie e, quando essere rappresentata è stata un'esperienza femminile, di solito è stato un uomo a renderne conto. Le donne vengono definite dall'esterno per come appaiono agli uomini, e non dall'interno come soggetti pensanti e senzienti. Non sono esseri simili e neanche una tipologia differente o qualitativamente peggiore di persone, sono semplicemente l'opposto dell'uomo, e quindi, l'opposto dell'essere umano. "

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16 " La facoltà maschile di disporre sessualmente delle donne è il fondamento del patriarcato. Se un uomo cisgender non riesce a portare a letto una donna cisgender, non può metterla incinta; se non è sicuro della monogamia di quella donna, non può essere certo che il bambino sia suo. [...]
La sessualità femminile può esistere solo con il permesso maschile e in risposta al bisogno maschile; in realtà il desiderio femminile è così intrinsecamente sovversivo che sarebbe meglio far finta che non esista. "

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17 " The Enuma Elish, the epic of Tiamat and Marduk, is thought to be a direct inspiration for the biblical book of Genesis. "

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18 " Affinché sia inattaccabile, il patriarcato deve essere rappresentato come necessario. Se gli uomini cominciassero a partorire o le donne a donare sperma, l'attuale stato delle cose apparirebbe per ciò che realmente è: artificiale e del tutto ingiusto. Il tentativo di separare biologia e identità ha rivelato su quali bugie si fonda il discorso patriarcale, e ha scoperto la sua vulnerabilità, per proteggere la quale ha fatto ciò che fa normalmente per contenere la possibilità d'azione delle donne cis: mettere a tacere con la violenza ogni manifestazione di vita fuori dalla norma. "

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19 " The archaic mother—Tiamat, or the T. rex—is an unlikely role model. Even in all her power, she’s ugly: slimy, roaring, irrational, seemingly little more than a uterus with some anger management issues attached. (But enough about me!) "

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20 " Midnight is the witching hour because it is neither today nor tomorrow. "

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