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Fierce Love: Creating a Love that Lasts—One Conversation at a Time QUOTES

Fierce Love: Creating a Love that Lasts—One Conversation at a Time QUOTES

1 " Maya Angelou said, “When someone shows you who he is, believe him the first time.” Or her.  What we do is who we are.  When someone says, “That’s not me,” after doing something or saying something hurtful, they are mistaken.  That is them.  That is exactly them or at least a part of them and it may be a part of them that you do not want in your life. "

― , Fierce Love: Creating a Love that Lasts—One Conversation at a Time

2 " When people agree, often someone smiles and says – Great minds think alike.  Think about this for a minute. If that were true, then nothing new would emerge in this world.   "

― , Fierce Love: Creating a Love that Lasts—One Conversation at a Time

3 " Do you view your relationship as something to be endured for the sake of the kids, or because you don’t want to be alone, or because you don’t think you could do better?  Or do you view your relationship, even with its imperfections, as a worthwhile work in progress?  How would your view influence how you interact with your partner, what you do, what you say?  What results would those interactions produce? "

― , Fierce Love: Creating a Love that Lasts—One Conversation at a Time

4 " Who wouldn’t appreciate maintenance free, guaranteed fresh, organic and self-cleaning relationships!  We want the happily ever after of fairy tales and the conflict-free marriages that only exist in televised fantasies.  Real relationships take time, energy, and daily care and feeding "

― , Fierce Love: Creating a Love that Lasts—One Conversation at a Time

5 " The opposite of love isn’t hate.  It’s indifference, lethal neutrality, apathy.  You don’t care. Instead of energy there’s malaise, inertia. Instead of chemistry there’s emptiness. Instead of substance there’s frivolousness. The relationship is all but dead. "

― , Fierce Love: Creating a Love that Lasts—One Conversation at a Time

6 " The idea I want you to embrace is that our relationships thrive, flatline, or fail, gradually then suddenly—one conversation at a time. "

― , Fierce Love: Creating a Love that Lasts—One Conversation at a Time

7 " Fierce love speaks to the energy that flows through a relationship. Energy keeps a relationship vital.  Fierce denotes a powerful energetic force that is present in our conversations, during lovemaking, even during a relaxing game of cards. We see our relationship as a living breathing being, a being with a pulse, needs, and a purpose.  Your job is to keep this being fed, energized, and vitally alive.   "

― , Fierce Love: Creating a Love that Lasts—One Conversation at a Time

8 " When couples cannot talk about their problems in a healthy way and become entrenched in their opinions, they have the same failed conversations over and over.  The relationship becomes emotionally clogged. Friction and frustration grow. Partners feel rejected, like they can’t get through to one another.  Behaviors associated with conflict avoidance include passive aggressive behavior, withdrawal.  "

― , Fierce Love: Creating a Love that Lasts—One Conversation at a Time

9 " While no single conversation is guaranteed to change the trajectory of a relationship, any single conversation can. "

― , Fierce Love: Creating a Love that Lasts—One Conversation at a Time

10 " How much love you have is up to you and while it may seem complicated, it isn’t.  Not really. It’s all about our conversations.  By having honest, courageous, meaningful conversations with your partner, you can foster true connection and a fierce love that will withstand the test of time and grow stronger over the years. "

― , Fierce Love: Creating a Love that Lasts—One Conversation at a Time

11 " When our conversations become constrained, when we avoid topics that might cause upset, when we accept comments or behavior that are hurtful, we no longer aim for harmony but rather toward a sort of deafness that allows us to stay in a relationship longer than we should.  Our senses have become dulled and we end up settling, even when we are anguished.  "

― , Fierce Love: Creating a Love that Lasts—One Conversation at a Time

12 " No one completes us.  No one is our missing piece, our other half.  We complete ourselves or fail to.   No one else could be successful in that role because each of us is utterly unique.  There isn’t another “you” anywhere on this planet.  If you somehow feel incomplete, the answers aren’t out there somewhere.  The answers are in the room.  You have them.   "

― , Fierce Love: Creating a Love that Lasts—One Conversation at a Time

13 " The point is—if you want something from me, tell me! If you’re upset with me, tell me! If there’s something you want me to do or stop doing, tell me! If I said something that didn’t go down well with you, stop the conversation right then and there and tell me! And if you’re happy with me, tell me! "

― , Fierce Love: Creating a Love that Lasts—One Conversation at a Time

14 " In real love4 you want the other person’s good. In romantic love you want the other person. "

― , Fierce Love: Creating a Love that Lasts—One Conversation at a Time

15 " Whenever I feel we are being less than we could be, we talk about it. It’s not always a long conversation. Sometimes it’s simply a reminder that we could settle for mediocrity or we could create something truly exceptional. Our relationship is wonderful because it’s a decision we make over and over. "

― , Fierce Love: Creating a Love that Lasts—One Conversation at a Time

16 " When someone apologizes, it’s amazing how much fresh air enters the room. "

― , Fierce Love: Creating a Love that Lasts—One Conversation at a Time

17 " And because of all that we have been through, I am sick of the word unprecedented. The use of the word unprecedented is unprecedented. Make it stop. "

― , Fierce Love: Creating a Love that Lasts—One Conversation at a Time

18 " Loving someone9 is like moving into a house,” Sonja used to say. “At first you fall in love with all the new things, amazed every morning that all this belongs to you, as if fearing that someone would suddenly come rushing in through the door to explain that a terrible mistake had been made, you weren’t actually supposed to live in a wonderful place like this. Then over the years the walls become weathered, the wood splinters here and there, and you start to love that house not so much because of all its perfection, but rather for its imperfections. You get to know all the nooks and crannies. How to avoid getting the key caught in the lock when it’s cold outside. Which of the floorboards flex slightly when one steps on them or exactly how to open the wardrobe doors without them creaking. These are the little secrets that make it your home. "

― , Fierce Love: Creating a Love that Lasts—One Conversation at a Time