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The Zen of Therapy: Uncovering a Hidden Kindness in Life QUOTES

The Zen of Therapy: Uncovering a Hidden Kindness in Life QUOTES

1 " It’s not what she is thinking that matters, it’s how she relates to her thoughts that will make all the difference. "

― Mark Epstein , The Zen of Therapy: Uncovering a Hidden Kindness in Life

2 " the sense that there is an accessible vitality, present from birth, underlying our accrued personalities. "

― Mark Epstein , The Zen of Therapy: Uncovering a Hidden Kindness in Life

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― Mark Epstein , The Zen of Therapy: Uncovering a Hidden Kindness in Life

4 " Even with good-enough upbringing and the consolidation of what might be called a good-enough self, according to the Buddha’s logic, there will still be disquiet, confusion, and insecurity because we are all instinctively struggling to be something (independent, solid, coherent, and self-sufficient) we can never be. Even in healthy personality development, we emerge from childhood defending against the underlying truth of how contingent, provisional, and dependent we actually are. The persistence of such feelings, far from being a symptom of parental failures (even if there have been such failures), is actually the seed of wisdom. Fighting against them only rigidifies our defenses and isolates us further. Acknowledging the emptiness that frightens us, whatever its source may be, is the key to a deeper, and truer, understanding. The emptiness that we fear is not really empty. When it is successfully turned into an object of awareness, it reveals itself to be vast, luminous, and reassuringly, albeit mysteriously, alive. "

― Mark Epstein , The Zen of Therapy: Uncovering a Hidden Kindness in Life