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1 " There are two ways of being a prophet. One is to tell the enslaved that they can be free. It is the difficult path of Moses. The second is to tell those who think they are free that they are in fact enslaved. This is the even more difficult path of Jesus. "
― Richard Rohr , From Wild Man to Wise Man: Reflections on Male Spirituality
2 " blinds them to anything and everything that falls outside that system. What they see and feel is only what feeds their addiction or what threatens it. To themselves they seem logical, even when they are being incoherent. To themselves they seem reasonable, even when they are being irrational. To themselves they seem moral, even when they are doing things that are destroying themselves and others. It is why many alcoholics are unkindly called “dry drunks” even after they stop drinking. The thinking patterns "
3 " Carl Jung, in his Collected Works (8, 784): “We cannot live the afternoon of life according to the program of life’s morning; for what was great in the morning will be of little importance in the evening, and what in the morning was true will at evening have become a lie. "
4 " Do not get rid of your hurts until you have learned all that they have to teach you. "
5 " It is the struggle with darkness and grief that educates the male soul. "
6 " Before Jesus, it was all about earning and meriting and performing, and Paul knew that would eat us all alive—as it has. "
7 " It’s not the idea that we hear, as much as the positive or negative energy behind it. "
8 " If people are to develop any deep spirituality today, and especially if men are to develop spiritually, they need to be liberated from self-serving worldviews. "
9 " The spiritual man in mythology, in literature and in the great world religions has an excess of life, he knows he has it, makes no apology for it, and finally recognizes that he does not even need to protect or guard it. It is not for him. It is for others. His life is not his own. His life is not about him. It is about God. "
10 " They look like the oppressors, but have no doubt they are really the oppressed. "
11 " The concern was about getting the beginning right, and then life and eternity would take care of themselves. We have been preoccupied with getting the end right, for some reason. "
12 " I’m sure that this is equally true of men in the business world or any world. We all need someone with inner authority who can let us know we are OK, that what we are going through is normal, and what battles are worth fighting. Sometimes we just need to hear from someone who believes in us, but who believes in us enough also to challenge us. Strangely, in their presence, the assurance and self-confidence are there, almost by magic, and almost embarrassingly so. It is humbling and wonderful to be a spiritual son. "
13 " Maybe even sadder is the willingness to give your whole life producing items of no social benefit, or even destructive, like slot machines, tawdry luxury goods or nuclear weapons. Is that what a man wants to do with his one single chance at life? Money is not just about paying bills, it must also be connected with making some contribution to life, others and history. "
14 " in fact, that’s largely what it means to be loving. You can hold for them what they cannot yet hold. You can transform for them what they cannot yet transform. You do that by not returning their negativity and fear in kind, as most people will do. "
15 " Remember, we do not think ourselves into new ways of living, but we live ourselves into new ways of thinking. Jesus moves toward lifestyle solutions and not academic ones. "
16 " Many of the greatest, kindest and most effective men I have ever met were driven to their life’s task by an aching father hunger that they often did not recognize themselves. It led them to be good students to mentors, help other boys, befriend other men, to nurture themselves because they had not been nurtured. But most especially they sometimes learn to seek, to desire and to trust that God is that loving and compassionate Daddy they always wanted. And that’s exactly what Jesus told us was true in his favorite story that we call the Prodigal Son (Luke 15:11–32). "
17 " As my father, Saint Francis, put it, “If you have once faced the great death, the second death can do you no harm. "
18 " No civilization has ever survived unless the elders saw it their duty to pass on gifts of Spirit to the young ones. "
19 " No civilization has ever survived unless the elders saw it their duty to pass on gifts of Spirit to the young ones. Is it that we are selfish, or is it that we ourselves have never found the gift ourselves? I suspect it is largely the latter. I don’t think most people are terribly selfish. They just don’t know. "
20 " The joyful acceptance of a limited world, of which I am only a small moment and limited part—this is probably the clearest indication of a man in his fullness. "