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1 " Children are mirrors; they will always show you exactly what is going on inside of you. Each phase of their growth is an opportunity to heal your own pain, to go deeper inside yourself and become more truly human "
― Vimala McClure , The Tao of Motherhood
2 " Remember that every child and every parent has a completely unique and special rela- tionship. That child knows his dad and loves his dad. Our job is to watch that communication, to nurture it, and to support the parents in their heart-to-heart relationships with their children "
3 " A wise mother knows: It is her state of consciousness that matters. Her gentleness and clarity command respect. Her love creates security. "
4 " Mother is the reflective principle, the balancing agent for the child. Like a guru, she allows the child to make mistakes and loves the child without condition. Like nature, she allows consequences to unfold and balance to be restored when it is lost. "
5 " Parenting is a spiritual path that can bring you great pain and great joy and that can have a tremendous positive impact on your personality and your behavior. "
6 " I believe our children, unknowingly and with innocent trickery, teach us the deeper knowledge of how to be a true human being "
7 " Right mothering meets the child’s need. Focusing on what the child should not be draws resistant energy. Pointing out what the child should be feeds self-hatred and struggle. "
8 " Do not reward performance. Rather, respond to Spirit expressing the Way. You are a mirror with which your child sees — and corrects — himself. "
9 " The child who feels your respect during silences is nourished more than the child who is constantly fussed and chattered over. "
10 " Everything which endures can only do so because Eternal Consciousness gives it sentience. "
11 " You can sit and meditate while your baby cries himself to sleep. Or you can go to him and share his tears, and find your Self. "
12 " Water benefits us without taking from us. It cleanses us, nourishes us, and calms our restlessness. So is a mother to her child. From the moment of birth, a child’s well-being is her only concern. A wise mother cleans and discards the child’s waste without comment. The child’s excrement, its tears, its rages, are all allowed to be and discarded without emotion. A wise mother does not judge her child. "
13 " Meeting needs and obeying commands are not the same. "
14 " You and your child have a unique and very special relationship. The dos and don’ts of all the advice givers out there may or may not apply to you. You have to listen to your heart and to your child and then make the deci- sions that are good for right now, for you two. "