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1 " Dear God: You said in Your Word that man is not meant to be alone. Seriously. You can look it up in Genesis 2:18. So, why do You insist I remain alone? Okay, so I realize I’m not a man. However, I think the spirit behind what You said about Adam included women. After all, when You didn’t want Adam to be alone, You created Eve. Did You know, when You said those words, many singles would throw them back in Your face in moments of frustrated isolation? —Sincerely, Your Lonely Daughter Cheryl "
― Cheryl McKay , Finally The Bride: Finding Hope While Waiting
2 " He knows the day, the hour, the minute that something in particular needs to happen in our lives. He may not be early, but He’s never late. "
3 " Seriously, God! Did You have to choose me as the poster child for the single-and-waiting-on-God girl? "
4 " why do I struggle with believing God will deliver on the promise of a husband and a family? "
5 " Can’t You get just ONE GUY to love me? You know this is the position I have been in my entire life. Unloved. Unknown. Not chosen. "
6 " God, why don’t you just hang a sign on my head that reads ‘never the choice’? "
7 " Save your heart the additional pain and keep your friendships with guys from becoming emotional attachments, if there is no pursuit for your heart. "
8 " If you’re in your thirties or early forties and still single, did you ever get tired of going to church and not fitting in anywhere? You were too old for the college and careers class, but you felt a little out of place in the forty-five and above singles class. No offense to them! It was a great class and I knew some great people there, but I just felt like I didn’t really fit anywhere. "
9 " I Must Be Defective FAVORITE REASONS I’M STILL SINGLE: (According to others) 1. God must think I’m not ready or mature enough for marriage. 2. If I didn’t want to be married, then maybe God could bless me with a husband. 3. I refuse to sign up for online dating sites. (If you wonder why, see reason #4.) 4. I refuse to go out with anyone who isn’t known well by people I know and trust. 5. I never call anyone who leaves a note on my car at Target that reads, “If you are single, I’d love to get to know you better.” (If you wonder why, reread reason #4.) 6. My spiritual standards are too high. If a guy believes in Jesus, that should be enough. 7. I’m not trying hard enough to make something happen. 8. I’m way too independent. (The fact that I have no choice but to take care of myself seems irrelevant!) 9. I say no to blind dates with men twenty years older than me. 10. I don’t always pluck my eyebrows. "
10 " WHY I AM STILL SINGLE: (According to lies I tell myself) 1. I am not worth the trouble because of my imperfections. 2. I am not lovable. 3. I am not pretty enough. 4. A guy has to be drunk to be attracted to me. 5. I’m too old, even for guys my age, who want women ten years younger. 6. Another woman will always be there to take a guy’s attention off me. "
11 " Our marital status is not an indicator of our worth or lovability, "
12 " Have you had stretches of time where dating or serious relationships were nonexistent? "
13 " If you choose to surrender your pen to God, you will probably face the odd looks and stares from your friends or family members who won’t understand your choices. They may think you’re not doing enough to “make this happen” on your own. "
14 " I have to face that my singleness right now is God’s choice, "
15 " I have been overlooked many times by men—including godly Christian men—because I don’t fit a physical profile. "
16 " WHY IT’S BAD TO BE SINGLE: (An itemized list of undisputable evidence) 1. Outside my parents and my sister and her family, I have no family or children of my own. 2. I have no immediate support system to come home to, when life throws its challenges and curveballs. 3. I’m lonely. 4. I have no one to go to parties or special events with. When big events happen—even when they’re good—I walk in alone. 5. I never get to take advantage of the “two people can combine resources and live together cheaper than apart” deal. 6. No one loves me. (My mother’s love doesn’t count in this case. Sorry, Mom!) 7. There’s this constant question about many guys I meet: is he the one? Is he worth dating? The search feels never-ending. 8. There’s the continuing heartbreak of liking guys who have no interest in me. (This happens a lot!) 9. I can be selfish sometimes because there isn’t that person to care for daily, whose needs are above my own (spouse or children). 10. There isn’t anyone to cuddle with, enjoy affections with, sleep beside (or let’s be honest—have sex with). "
17 " amazing how quickly Satan can use what’s supposed to be a blessing and a gift from God to derail you into a place where you’re thankless for the gift. You focus on what you don’t have instead. "
18 " I’m so sick of my life. The chapter I want doesn’t get written. I’m always stuck in the “wait” chapter. "
19 " Many churches skip our demographic and offer us nothing. They go from the college and career group to the young marrieds. They forget that many these days are in their thirties and forties, yet alone. Mother’s Day can also be a hot button for some women who desire children. "
20 " #9 Hazard of Singlehood: Facing Love Interests Who Are Now With Others "
