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The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended QUOTES

1 " Defeating lust is not about limiting a man’s encounters with women; it’s about empowering men to treat the women around them as whole people, daughters of Christ. The key to defeating lust is not to avoid looking at women; it’s to actually see them. "

― Sheila Wray Gregoire , The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended

2 " You defeat porn by rejecting the kingdom of darkness view of sex, that it is only about taking and using someone to meet your needs, and adopting a kingdom of heaven view of sex: that it’s about a mutual, passionate knowing and sacrificial serving. "

― Sheila Wray Gregoire , The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended

3 " Here’s an interesting finding from our research: Women who do not believe traditional gender roles are moral imperatives feel more heard and seen in their marriages. In fact, women who act out the typical breadwinner-homemaker dynamic also feel more seen if they see it as a choice and not a God-given role.9 "

― Sheila Wray Gregoire , The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended

4 " But when we unquestioningly buy into traditional gender roles, we create a strange dynamic in marriage in which we view each other as categories rather than as people. "

― Sheila Wray Gregoire , The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended

5 " Intimate sex requires that you feel as if your spouse values you not just for what you can give them but for who you are. "

― Sheila Wray Gregoire , The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended

6 " Evangelical culture primes women to repress their sexuality but then turns around and chastises them when they are married for doing that very thing. "

― Sheila Wray Gregoire , The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended

7 " That may be why we found that the risk of divorce skyrockets in marriages in which the husband is the one who ultimately makes the decisions, "

― Sheila Wray Gregoire , The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended

8 " When we set up marriages where a husband has decision-making power, we create marriages in which his opinions, by definition, matter more than hers. "

― Sheila Wray Gregoire , The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended

9 " But when we have power over another—particularly power in an area where someone feels so vulnerable and needy and where they can go nowhere else to be served—and then use that power irresponsibly, inappropriately, and maliciously, we become more like Satan, who loves to manipulate us in our weakness rather than like God, who serves us in our weakness. "

― Sheila Wray Gregoire , The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended

10 " But what we’ve found is that when you work on marital satisfaction, reducing stress, and making sex feel pleasurable and passionate, libido differences usually take care of themselves. "

― Sheila Wray Gregoire , The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended

11 " The message that “whatever you are feeling doesn’t matter, you need to have intercourse with your spouse” erases you as a person. It says that who you are, including your wants, desires, and feelings, doesn’t matter. Then sex, which is supposed to be this deep knowing, becomes something far different. It’s saying, “I don’t want to know you, because your needs and desires are actually unimportant to me. I only want to use you. "

― Sheila Wray Gregoire , The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended

12 " When we are repeatedly told by our churches and the Christian media we consume that we can’t trust our husbands, even if our husbands are trustworthy, that plants seeds of doubt. "

― Sheila Wray Gregoire , The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended

13 " Maybe the fact that women feel so upset by this “every man struggles with lust” message isn’t because women simply need to understand men better; maybe it’s because women are being asked to accept something that reflects the kingdom of darkness rather than Christ. Maybe women can’t accept being seen as objects and do not feel safe in a society that does not treat them as human beings—and maybe women are right to feel that way. Does "

― Sheila Wray Gregoire , The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended

14 " Much of the solution to the lust problem as advocated in Every Man’s Battle views women through the lust lens rather than through a kingdom lens. "

― Sheila Wray Gregoire , The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended

15 " I wasn’t a person, a human, a woman, a sister in that elevator. I was a potential stumbling block, an object. I was a walking, talking collection of tempting body parts. "

― Sheila Wray Gregoire , The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended

16 " This teaching that sex is something women owe their husbands is the most painful, in a literal sense, when sexual pain is actually involved. And we found that sexual pain is very widespread in the Christian community. "

― Sheila Wray Gregoire , The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended

17 " We believe that the temptation to lust can feel insurmountable because we conflate it with attraction. "

― Sheila Wray Gregoire , The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended

18 " He has told me that the easiest way not to disrespect women is to view them as people. "

― Sheila Wray Gregoire , The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended

19 " Identify women in your life from whom you can learn, whether it’s advice about work, parenting, finances, etc. Make it a practice to consult women as well as men when you are making a decision. "

― Sheila Wray Gregoire , The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended

20 " You have a responsibility to treat others with respect regardless of what they wear. "

― Sheila Wray Gregoire , The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended