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21 " Derek has never punished her for grieving the way she grieves. Maybe she shouldn’t punish him for grieving the way he grieves. "
― Jennifer Hillier , Little Secrets
22 " She knows from experience that humans can only tolerate intense emotional pain for so long before things begin to dull. It’s the body’s way of coping, and it isn’t so much relief as it is a reprieve. "
23 " Maybe they’re just words and maybe they’re meant to be comforting, but goddamn it, Marin is so sick of other women being sorry for things that aren’t their fault. She’s sick of being sorry for things that aren’t her fault. "
24 " A strange thing happens when you’re going through something terrible. It’s as if your body and mind separate, and you cease to become a whole person. Your body goes through the motions of what you need to do to survive—eat, sleep, excrete, repeat—while your brain further divides into compartments of Things You Need to Do Now, and Things You Should Process Later When You’re in Your Right Mind. "
25 " And that’s what life is these days, isn’t it? A series of slips and catches, mistakes and remorse, a constant juggling act of pretending to feel okay when all she wants to do is fall apart. "
26 " Derek assumes a lot of things are about him. It’s a rich-guy thing "
27 " Hope lasts only so long, can carry you only so far. It’s both a blessing and a curse. Sometimes it’s all you have. It keeps you going when there’s nothing else to hold on to. "
28 " Love is unpredictable, and love hurts. Trust is reliable, dependable, and solid. "
29 " I’d rather be rich than poor. But I’d rather be happy than rich. "
30 " It was trust that saved them. He trusted her, and she him, and in some way, Marin has come to realize that trust is better than love. Love is unpredictable, and love hurts. Trust is reliable, dependable, and solid. Like Sal. "
31 " But therapy is hard. You have to do the work, and it demands a lot from you before it starts to give back. "
32 " For the past four hundred eighty-six days, sadness has knocked her sideways, debilitated her, confused her, made her weak, talked her into settling for things she doesn’t want, and never did. Rage, on the other hand, will get shit done. "