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1 " Loneliness is so much worse than sadness, because loneliness, by definition, cannot be shared. "
― Kelly Rimmer , Truths I Never Told You
2 " tradition provides a roadmap, and that roadmap unexpectedly offers me a path through the worst of the grief. "
3 " I finally discovered that the love I have for my children is the most powerful thing on earth. It's fierce and determined and an absolute force to be reckoned with. I would do anything for them. On a good day I know that I am far from a perfect mother, but I am all they have, and all I can do is to make sure that I expend every breath trying to do my best. "
4 " This is our family's tragedy, and we each play a part in the suffering. By sharing it, we can survive it, because we subconsciously remind one another that one day soon, this will end, and we'll still be standing side by side. "
5 " But life has no rhyme or reason sometimes, and when it all boils down, we really are at the mercy of fate. "
6 " depression isn’t weakness. It’s a matter of brain chemistry. Postpartum depression is no different. Pregnancy and childbirth are immensely taxing on a woman’s body and it’s not at all uncommon for a new mother to develop depression "
7 " language skills were in significant decline, and what I’d thought of as patient listening was actually Dad disconnecting from "
8 " That stubborn change in his diet was a symptom, too, "
9 " overnight emergence of artistic skill was no late-life crisis brought on by the heart attack. It turns out that sudden visual artistry is a recognized symptom of his particular type of dementia—and this particular type of dementia is known to happen sometimes in patients suffering heart failure. "
10 " Dad’s language issues stem from a form of frontotemporal atrophy called semantic dementia. His memories are intact, but his language skills have been devastated. "
11 " Motherhood changed me—it had sucked the very life from my bones, and now I was an exhausted, empty shell. "
12 " turns out that sudden visual artistry is a recognized symptom of his particular type of dementia—and this particular type of dementia is known to happen sometimes in patients suffering heart failure. "
13 " This, I realize, is why we have ceremonies like funerals—not for the departed but for the living, to remind one another that even in grief, we don’t have to be alone. "
