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No More Letting Go: The Spirituality of Taking Action Against Alcoholism and Drug Addiction QUOTES

No More Letting Go: The Spirituality of Taking Action Against Alcoholism and Drug Addiction QUOTES

1 " Perfectionists are working not to improve the world but to keep it under control. They do everything perfectly not for the satisfaction of a job well done but as a way of camouflaging addiction’s presence in the family. By keeping everything orderly, they’re trying to make the disease less noticeable. They work tirelessly to create a perfect family life but are rarely cognizant of what motivates their obsession. Through their eyes, perfectionism is their finest quality. It’s the way they provide the ones they love with the very best. They have no idea that perfectionism is an outgrowth of fear and that it’s more about looking happy than being happy. The compulsion to have the cleanest house, cook the best meals, plant the perfect garden, and always look perfectly coiffed is, for the perfectionist, a way to stay safe. After all, when the house is well kept, the children are properly dressed, and everyone has good manners, how can "

― Debra Jay , No More Letting Go: The Spirituality of Taking Action Against Alcoholism and Drug Addiction