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" This concept upends the way most people think about their subjective experience
of life. We tend to place a lot of emphasis on our circumstances, assuming that what
happens to us (or fails to happen) determines how we feel. From this perspective, the
small-scale details of how you spend your day aren’t that important, because what
matters are the large-scale outcomes, such as whether or not you get a promotion or
move to that nicer apartment. According to Gallagher, decades of research contradict
this understanding. Our brains instead construct our worldview based on what we pay
attention to. If you focus on a cancer diagnosis, you and your life become unhappy and
dark, but if you focus instead on an evening martini, you and your life become more
pleasant—even though the circumstances in both scenarios are the same. As Gallagher
summarizes: “Who you are, what you think, feel, and do, what you love—is the sum of
what you focus on. "
― Cal Newport , Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World
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" Sometimes we don't want to be tethered to yesterday. It's nicer to forget. Maybe the gaps in our memory are there for a reason, evolutionary perhaps, to give us the space to grow, to get away from childishness or childish things. Or maybe it's so we have the chance to invent, or at least include, some magic in our yesterdays, surely the consolation of getting older, of moving away from youth, is that we can shape our past to our fantasies. So, even if the present isn't going the way we want it, we can stand and remember our earlier selves as exciting and funny and daring "
― , Spectacles
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" Like I said, magic comes from life, and especially from emotions. They're a source of the same intangible energy that everyone can feel when an autumn moon rises and fills you with a sudden sense of bone-deep excitement, or when the first warm breeze of spring rushes past your face, full of the scents of life, and drowns you in a sudden flood of unreasoning joy. The passion of mighty music that brings tears to your eyes, and the raw, bubbling, infectious laughter of small children at play, the bellowing power of a stadium full of football fans shouting " Hey!" in time to that damned song—they're all charged with magic.My magic comes from the same places. And maybe from darker places than that. Fear is an emotion, too. So is rage. So is lust. And madness. I'm not a particularly good person. I'm no Charles Manson or anything, but I'm not going to be up for canonization either. Though in the past, I think maybe I was a better person than I am today. In the past I hadn't seen so many people hurt and killed and terrorized by the same kind of power that damn well should have been making the world a nicer place, or at the least staying the hell away from it. I hadn't made so many mistakes back then, so many shortsighted decisions, some of which had cost people their lives. I had been sure of myself. I had been whole. "