" If someone is inconsiderate or rude to you, risk telling them how it made you feel or that you didn’t appreciate being treated that way. If you tend to talk yourself out of anger by telling yourself that you don’t want to make waves, try telling yourself instead that it is okay to make waves sometimes and risk letting people know how you really feel. "

― Beverly Engel , The Nice Girl Syndrome: Stop Being Manipulated and Abused -- And Start Standing Up for Yourself