" If you live your life to please everyone else, you will continue to feel frustrated and powerless. This is because what others want may not be good for you. You are not being mean when you say NO to unreasonable demands or when you express your ideas, feelings, and opinions, even if they differ from those of others. "

― Beverly Engel , The Nice Girl Syndrome: Stop Being Manipulated and Abused -- And Start Standing Up for Yourself