" What is word for good together living? Nobody shits in the well?" I laughed. " Civilization?" He nodded, splaying his fingers: amusement. " Yes," he said. " Speaking with hands is civilization." " But smiling is natural," I protested. " Everyone smiles." " Natural is not civilization," Tempi said. " Cooking meat is civilization. Washing off stink is civilization." " So in Ademre you always smile with hands?" I wished I knew the gesture for dismay." No. Smiling with face good with family. Good with some friend." " Why only family?" Tempi repeated his thumb-on-collarbone gesture again. " When you make this." He pressed his palm to the side of his face and blew air into it, making a great flatulent noise. " That is natural, but you do not make it near others. Rude. With family..." He shrugged. Amusement. " ...civilization not important. More natural with family. "