" ...have you ever been out with someone who told you yes, but you could tell they were a no? Didn't you wish they had just told you no instead? Our no is a way of showing love for ourselves and others. We tale care of ourselves by saying no when we mean it, freeing ourselves up to find something we're a yes to. For others, we free them up to find someone who is as big a yes to that activity as they are. No one wants a reluctant partner! "

― , Building Open Relationships: Your hands on guide to swinging, polyamory, and beyond!