" Love was central to Victorians' sense of self because through it they learned to know not only their partners but themselves. Love was a template for authentic, albeit restrained, expression of their inner self, but it was also a means to attain spiritual perfection, as was made clear by the consistent association of the romantic discourse with the values and metaphors of religion. "

― Eva Illouz , Consuming the Romantic Utopia: Love and the Cultural Contradictions of Capitalism