QUOTE : I miss my mother every day,” I said. “But this is my life and everything that has made me who I am, so I can’t dwell on what might have been.” I’d always be out of step with most people my age who’d been given many more chances to get it right, whose parents were there to scoop them up when they faltered and to point them in the right direction when indecisions were met. I had quickly learned that my own safety net had sizeable gaping holes in it, which likely explained why lately I felt like I was at sea without a life preserver.