" It’s very difficult to give up on things we can’t control. And that’s what a divorce represents. It represents the ultimate loss of control, a marriage and a mate we can’t control. And if we give up on the mate and the marriage, by acknowledging that loss, we can free ourselves of the anger and resentment - and that will liberate our children. Finally, children are not affected by our grief and mourning. They are affected by our inability to grieve and mourn. "

― Daniel Gottlieb , Voices in the Family: A Therapist Talks About Listening, Openness Healing