" There are an infinite number of ways to be female on this planet, just as there are an infinite number of ways to be human, and my belief is that all of them are cool. If my experience and Janet's, for instance, are very different, that makes neither one of us one speck less - or more, for that matter - female.
If there is room for Dolly Parton, and room for my aunt Erna, and for Janet, then surely there ought to be room for me.
I mention all of this because I admit I grow weary with clever theories about transgender people, as if our identity is part of an argument that anyone might win or lose. If you have a complex theory about gender that does nothing to reduce the suffering of a group of vulnerable, maligned souls, maybe what you need, above all, is a new theory. "

― Jennifer Finney Boylan , Good Boy: My Life in Seven Dogs