" Once at the table, though, each creator can choose to share their personal observations…whether individualized, or as part of a shared cultural experience. The most important part here is the ability to opt in or opt out of this part of the dialogue, at will. Othering occurs when someone else puts that spotlight on you without your consent. "

― Kevin A. Patterson , Love's Not Color Blind: Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities