" For still others, helping someone is a way to compensate for a perceived deficit. The gratitude we receive allows us to forget about traits we dislike about ourselves. These motivations are understandable. But left unchecked, they can cause us to repeatedly ignore our own needs and priorities. "

― Damon Zahariades , The Art Of Saying NO: How To Stand Your Ground, Reclaim Your Time And Energy, And Refuse To Be Taken For Granted (Without Feeling Guilty!)