" At the same time, she [Charis Denison] offered this to an eleventh-grader whose friend was having sex with many different people. "Your response doesn't have to be 'That's gross' of 'That's bad.' You can ask, 'How did that feel to you? What does it bring you? How does it serve you?' Approached in the right way, that can be a great conversation. Then, if you really care about that person, your job is to be their human shield from shame. "

― Peggy Orenstein , Girls & Sex: Navigating the Complicated New Landscape