QUOTE : We begin the formidable task of getting to know ourselves by discovering our emotional nature—not in relation to anyone or anything, but in relation to ourselves alone. With or without anyone else playing a primary role, a person needs to know: What do I like? What do I love? What makes me happy? What do I need for balance? What are my strengths? Can I rely upon myself? What are my weaknesses? Why do I do the things I do? What makes me need the attention and approval of others? Am I strong enough to be close to another person and still honor my own emotional needs? These questions are different from those of the tribal mind, which teaches us to ask: What do I like in relation to others? How strong can I be while still remaining attractive to others? What do I need from others in order to be happy? What will I have to change about myself in order to get someone to love me? We